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When you work together
| Thu, 10-13-2005 - 9:13am |
I am really having a hard time with the fact that my ex of two weeks and I work together, when quitting isnt an option, when he has moved on with someone else already and you have to see it and hear about it at work and then come home to the place where you lived together and everything reminds you of them, its like there is no escape.

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hi there,
i wanted to let you know that am praying for you. if you want to see a therapist..please go ahead and do so. if thats going to help you,then definitely try it. i had mentioned earlier that i've a very supportive work environment...i have two counsellors in my office and so i guess its been very helpful as am getting a lot of help from them and they've been so supportive. and thats where i feel for you, coz i remember that you said that you've common friends and you have to see him all the time...i've realised that a bit or a lot of male bashing always helps me at least to feel good momentarily. i don't have any friends where i live, all my friends are back home in india or around the worl, no one in london, so its been very difficult, but finally i realised that i needed to talk to somone n thats when i called my friend n she just put certain things point blank to me n u knw wht it felt good. so if u've any friends who r not his friends then go n meet them
so yes go ahead see someone who'll heal you towards the path of healing. if your sister is supportive n if she does not mind go live with her for some time, or try n get rid of all his stuff from ur place (only if u feel like). but please remember that we are all here to help you through this time.
take care.
Thank you so much for posting this, kitkat. It's got to be horrible for you!
Hopefully others can learn from this example. So sorry for your pain.
Geeez! That is horrible. Sounds like you are going through some real hard times. I hope everything went well with the surgery. I hope you are taking care of yourself so you can heal from the surgery.
I know how hard it is to see your ex move on. I broke up with my ex a month ago. A week after breaking up I saw him and his ex girlfriend on a date. I can only imagine how hard it is to see him at work everyday. You are strong just by getting up and going to work. Stay strong and please take care of yourself.
I really can relate to everything you have posted in the last couple of days. Your situation is so similar to mine as is most of the posts. My ex is 5 years younger than I am and was the love of my life. I find comfort in reading and posting comments. I hope you do too. I don't have any friends he was my best friend. I am 29 and most of all my friends are married with a life of their own and the ones I had I had neglected for 2 years while I was with my ex. I have found friends on the site.
My advice to you is to do what helped me...
Take a NEW pad of sticky post-it notes and on each one write every awful thing about him. Make the first one be the hospital situation (that's unbelievable). You will fill up a whole pad, believe me. I did, and my exboyfriend was actually a very sweet person, but with too many issues that he couldn't get past.
Read these everyday or every time you feel you need a reminder why it's better to be without him. Sometimes it's easy to remember the good times, but right now you need to remember why you are SO INCREDIBLY much better off without him. Start to begin healing and in awhile you will be so thankful he's not in your life anymore.
And, go seek some counseling. I have my first appt next week.
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