where do i draw the line?
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where do i draw the line?
| Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:51pm |
Here's a tricky one... My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were together a little over a year. I had a very hard time getting over it and I'm still not completely over him. However, it wasn't an ugly break-up and we're still "friends." Friends to the extent that we're there for each other, but I'm not able or interested in hearing about any females in his life! He's in another state-- he had to move b/c of a new job after a few months of us dating exclusively. We both fell in love fast and it was great. Ok, so here's the question... he is terribly miserable at his job which he has to stay at unfortunately as he is not a U.S. citizen. If he leaves his job, he'll have to move back to Europe for at least a year. I feel terrible for him b/c he's been so successful here and made a wonderful life for himself after completing his masters degree. He has confided in me a little bit, but I'm still very concerned and worried about him. Should I let him come to me to talk or is this all part of being able to break up with someone and letting go of EVERYTHING? So confused...

My take on this is if you're not ready to hear about EVERYTHING in his life (including his new gfs) then you're not ready to be friends.
I just don't see how you can truly be friends with someone without being able to discuss their romantic r'ships with them.
Sheri