Who gets the ring??
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Who gets the ring??
| Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:34pm |
So, the love of life decides that we arent meant to be together 6 months before our wedding. I want to keep the engagement ring. Why should he have it? Who get's it. Is it considered legally a "gift" or does it legally belong to the meanest man on earth?

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I would say that if you truly don't feel like you'll ever want to wear that dress then you should find a way to get as much as you can out of it. I don't blame you for feeling pain with it. I've had mine for several months and I don't know why, but it doesn't cause me pain to think about it. I can't wait to get married and to wear it...because i feel like such a princess in it! But not everyone feels the same way about things. I'd get what you can get out of it and deal with the losses of it.
Regarding the deposits...that was mostly my money...he only chipped in a small portion of it. It didn't bother me that much though because I am only out about 400 bucks besides the grand for the dress/veil/etc...and he's out 2 1/2 grand for the ring he has now collecting dust. so it doesn't bother me that much....my losses aren't nearly that big compared to his, and I can wear my dress again...he can't ever use that ring again.
My mother actually bought my dress...it was one of the things she has done for all my sisters when they got married. I'll give her the money though. I tried on sooooo many but the dress I picked was defintely the ONE. I don't know maybe I'll feel differently in a few months.
You don't think your ex will try to use the same ring on someone else? My ex paid almost 18k for my ring and I don't see him selling it. So if he ends up marrying this girl (which I think he will even though they just met) she's basically going to get a hand me down, but he'll have to get the "balls" off so she doesn't know, LOL!
I'm so pi$$ed off that he jumped into another relationship so quickly after being with me for 7 years. I am trying so hard not to think about him but eventually I do and now I get to think about him with another girl and it's burning me up inside!
Just like my other post to you...I know exactly what you're going through. Are you my long lost sister? Our lives seem sooo parallel right now. I know he didn't give her my ring because I flat out asked. I do think he has more class than that...I hope.
Maybe you will feel different about the dress later on. Again, I'm not sure why that doesn't bother me, but it doesn't. I am thrilled to wear it someday and it doesn't hurt that it's not for him. I wish I could tell you why I feel that way, but i have no idea.
We'll both get through this with time...i promise. :) try to keep your chin up and write anytime...
my email is jenttifer@hotmail.com if you ever feel like writing to me there.
~jen
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