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| Sun, 02-19-2006 - 1:42pm |
My ex and I broke finally after he did a lot of really selfish things that hurt me a lot. Now he has a new girlfriend and she knows about everything that he's done! She also knows that he's said some really really cruel things to her best friend (who is also my best friend from high school) but aparently that doesn't matter. It just seems so unfair that after all of the things he's done he still gets someone to care about him and I'm alone. I don't know what to do. It's distressing me so much I can't eat or sleep. Knowing that he can just replace me so easily and be happy with someone else is just killing me. I don't know what to do.

Hi Katie,
I understand what you're feeling right now (my ex was playing around behind my back with another girl and now I'm left by myself to pick up the pieces while he has his backup plan).
Try not to think about the other girl... turn that focus on yourself. Just try to take each day one at a time and keep yourself busy. I know for my experience at least, thinking about the 'other woman' will make you crazy. It makes my stomach hurt and I have also not slept/ate. Talk to friends, read (I recommend "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken"), and post on here. There are a lot of very supportive people here to help you get thru this!
katiedid0985...
Pianoguy thinks there's a HUGE DIFFERENCE between "getting someone" and "keeping that same person in your life!"
From what you described...there are already problems present with the new g/f and your EX's opinion of HER girlfriend? So how long do you think it'll take before additional problems begin to filter into the new relationship?
I hate to sound cruel....but NOBODY (even a family member) is worth jeopardizing YOUR HEALTH or SLEEPING PATTERN for! You can fret, agonize, chastise and criticise...but what's the point??? None of those feelings do diddly-squat other than make YOU upset!
Worrying solves nothing. So why not try a little prayer instead? Not just on your own behalf, but on the behalf of those you really care about?
The results might AMAZE YOU?
Pianoguy
Hello katiedid0985, welcome to the board!
I know how you feel.
Some people jump from relationship to relationship without ever healing in-between. And some people are so insecure they cannot be alone, even for a minute, which is why they line up the next woman while they're still in their current relationship. To have a truly healthy relationship, you need to mourn the last one, take time to figure out who you are and what you want, and THEN start dating again. It may take a while before you find the right person, but when you do you'll know it's right. Your ex will likely continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over again in relationships throughout his life, and you should feel some consolation in that. And, as pianoguy said, losing sleep and not eating isn't going to help the situation. Remember this saying someone told me once: "Resentment is setting myself on fire in the hopes that the smoke will bother you."
Steph