Why am I still pissed?

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Why am I still pissed?
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Sun, 12-12-2004 - 11:27pm

Hi .. it's me .. again .. lol .. I don't know what's with me .. it's been almost 2 months since my ex dumped me and is now with his new girlfriend ... and yet, I feel fine and want to move on .. yet, some days I just get so pissed and wanna tell him I hate him and to go to hell .. I just don't get why I'm still so angry sometimes .. I was hurt so bad and I just want to forget him and move on for good .. why is this so hard? I mean .. he was trying before to get in contact with me, but now that I ignored and told his best friend I want nothing to do with him .. he has left me alone now ... when am I going to start feeling like someone who isn't messed up about this anymore?

Thanks, Lynne

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 10:43pm
What you're feeling is normal...you've been hurt and you replaced your love for him with anger. In time it will pass you will be normal again but I couldn't tell you when it varys from person to person, from situation to situation. But you'll be ok and you'll get through this and we're here to help in any way we can!











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Registered: 07-08-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 10:50pm
Thank you!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-14-2004 - 12:07am

Anger is one of the stages of grief. If you're not familiar with all of the stages, you might want to do a google search on "stages of grief".

One thing that isn't in a lot of the articles is that they don't always go in order, and you can end up doing the stages more than once. I know I've cycled through anger a number of times during my various breakup recoveries!

As far as how long, I've found that as a VERY general rule, if you were with your ex for two years or less, it'll take about half the time you were in the r'ship. BUT, the clock doesn't start until you stop contact. The good news is, you won't feel THIS bad the whole time...it's not like you feel bad, bad, bad and then wake up one day feeling good. It's more like bad, less bad, ok, less bad, bad, ok, ok, hmm pretty good, etc ;-).

Sheri