why are the weekends soooooo hard

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-15-2005
why are the weekends soooooo hard
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 4:30pm
ok, anyone else here find the weekend super hard...... i find this the hardest time. i want to call so bad, partly i think its a jealousy thing...like i want to know if he is with another girl....or what he is doing. iam so use to knowing, and always being with him. anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 6:03pm
Hey,
I know exactly what you mean. I use to spend pretty much every week end with my boyfriend, and now that its stopped, i've had to find other things to do, and its been hard to get back to my old routine before i was going out with him. but in a way its good too, i've had more time for myself, school work, friends and family. I can't help but wonder though what he is doing with himself. Just try to keep busy, do things for yourself, be selfish, spoil yourself, meet up with friends for coffee, read a good book, go out for a night on the town, or even take up a new hobbie. It will be hard at first to stop thinking about him, but once in a while you will catch yourself doing it and actually having a good time, and it will just get easier from there.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 6:30pm

Indeed it is hard...I wonder too if he is with his new woman and what they are doing. I want to turn my thinking around and stop obsessing on HIM and start focusing on ME. I say this new mantra:

I release the need to obsess on __. I a surrounded by peace and serenity. I am safe and loved

My meditation and prayers help so much. Some days are dark and dreary. I am trying to find new meaning to my new life. I have lost some weight, am working out starting a new fitness regime. I got my hair cut, a pedicure and two massages..it helps.

But yes, here we are Friday night..sigh..

This too shall pass..

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 6:46pm

I agree, the weekends right after a breakup are the worst.

Nikki
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 8:37pm

I have to tell you that this is common for most of us. I am the same way I used to love weekends, doesn't everybody? Now, I loath them. I am miserable, all my friends are married with families and they don't really go out much. They are into their lives and I understand that but it doesn't make it any easier. I do the same thing, I sit and stew about what he is doing, who he is with. I am always sitting at home and I know he goes out, he won't sit at home. He will stay busy any way he has to. I feel like a loser sitting at home knowing he is out having a good old time but I have to remind myself that going out to the bars doesn't make someone better then me or more interesting then me. In fact me staying at home is a more admirable quality then running out to the bars. I really don't have much advise to offer since I am in the same sinking ship as you but I did want you to know that you are not the only one dealing with this situation. I do find that I go online a lot at night and I do searches for breakup advise. I read as much as there is out there and I go to this site and it helps to repeat my story over and over and over again. It helps to read that there are others going through the same thing.

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