why cant i just get over him
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why cant i just get over him
| Tue, 01-23-2007 - 2:41pm |
i had been dating this guy for a little over 2 months and things were great! there is something special about this guy i just cant let go of and i've had bad break ups but this is the most heartaching one and i just cant stop thinking about him. i cant stop texting him. please can someone help me because i have no clue how i'll ever let go of this guy but mainly its because i still want him.

I don't know what the circumstances of your break-up were but as crazy as this sounds the worst thing you can do is text or phone him--pushes them further away and projects an image of neediness. You don't want that!
Read the book It's Called A Break-up Because It's Broken--it's the best book to have in this case and if you seriously follow the advice it will speed up the whole recovery process.
Good luck to you.
2 months isn't really long enough to know him, know him. So what you've got in your head is mostly the 'idea' of what you'd like the relationship to continue looking like. He's not on the same page as you. My guess is that you think if you get back with him, if he'll talk to you, that somehow everything will be back to the way it was. A dream, kind of. Sorry.
Delete his number, stop texting him. Every time you feel like texting, get out pen and paper and write him an UNSENT letter. Tell him everything you feel and why, then burn it. Letting go, like grief is a process.
Carrie
i cant blame you if you fall that fast w/this guy....cuz i was w/my ex now. ofcourse we gonna fall in love w/this guys after they show their affection and everything....AFTER THAT ESP IF THEY KNOW YOU ARE ALREADY IN TO THEM....ONE THING YOU KNOW THEY ARE GONE!!! ISNT???
well atleast now we both learn are lesson....that we need to get to know the real "HIM" RIGHT???
guys are mostly sweet on the beginning of the relationship BUT after they got what they want THEY WILL SAY GOODBYE TO YOU...WELL WELL....that sad...but we cannot Do anything anymore....we just need to back off and respect what they want....cuz no matter what were trying to do for them they will never appreciate it...
and the best thing is ATLEAST BEFORE YOU REALLY FALL INLOVE W/THIS GUY...HIS REAL COLOR COMES OUT NOW!!!
GOOD LUCK