Why can't our ex soothe us,why instead..

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Registered: 08-06-2004
Why can't our ex soothe us,why instead..
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Fri, 08-06-2004 - 3:41pm


I'm wondering. When in relationship, our boyfriend was also our friend, right, someone who cared for us. Ok, when he decided the relationship wouldn't work out, fine.. understandable. But since they used to care for us, can't they care for us after break up as a person... if no longer girlfriend to them? Care as a friend?

Why can't most of them be nice human beings and still care as a friend? Most of them drift off.... hardly call you, etc?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 6:03pm
Because if the person gave you comfort you would think that that means they 'might' care for you more than just a friend, making it harder to grieve for the end of the relationship, heal and move on..... it's called FALSE HOPE.


Carrie