Why did my ex break it off with me?
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| Sat, 04-01-2006 - 8:49pm |
Please, read the whole thing before replying. Its long....
Well, Its been over a month( I know a little late to be posting it here) now and I still think about her from time to time and sometimes the pain comes back...
I am going to make this as short as possible.....
I met this girl on myspace....
She seemed nice so I send her a message saying that I've seen her around my High school before( I am 20 by the way)
So we started talking getting to know each like normal people...(On msn and webchats, also phone chats, I haven't met her at this point yet)
She had a boyfriend at the time, but the thing is her boyfriend lived 1000 miles away, it was long distants relationship, her boyfriend came to visit her before so they have met...
She said it may not last much longer between the two because they haven't been getting along that well at all.
A few days later, she broke it off with him, her ex kept bugging her to take her back but she wouldn't do it. We started flirting more now and complimenting each other like every minute lol
A few days later again, she blocked me on myspace and msn. Because she claimed she was back with her ex(of course I haven't cared back than seeing as I haven't even met her yet) But I had a friend talk to her and she felt bad for me, so......, she left him again and started talking with me...!
She was really really sweet and nice and caring..., she was perfect
Ok, this was the start of our relationship
Ok now lets fast forward a month later
We decided to meet up for the first time, It went really well we really liked each other. Second time we met she was saying that she loved me and all that and saying that she was in-love. Not wanting to hurt her feelings I said I loved her also(But I wasn't in-love with her yet)
So after a few more met ups I met her friend. I don't know but I guess I kinda flirted with her a little bit. Nothing serious and my ex didn't seem to mind, her friend liked me so that was a good thing ^_^
Me and my girlfriend went to the movies the next time we met with a few for her friends. Went well....intill we went back to her place
She asked me if I have seen certain movies(forgot what movies she said) I said no. Than she said "What!? what else movies haven't you seen?" It was something along those lines but it was in a rude tone. I have never seen her act that way before, shortly after I said that I needed to go now and we did hugged and kiss...
We talked on msn later that night...but...
She acted a bit different.
She acted depressed and was saying these weird things.... Saying things like
"I hate myself*
*I don't know where I am going in life*
* I wish someone would put me in a mental institution*
She called me later than night seeming a bit upset, I told her she could go for a walk or take a nap. She said ok and we said " I love you" To each other
man, I am going way into detail here, you still awake? lol ok, on with the story
Next day, she blocked me on myspace. For no reason it seems. Than her ex send me this message along the lines....
" Haha I guess she found out you a were mother****er, and saying she left me because I was being weird and an ass(gee don't remember being an ass and saying that I have been rubbing off on her best friend" and other immature crap
I couldn't believe it, I was in shocked, I didn't do anything wrong what gives?
I didn't bug her. A few days has past and she messaged me. I told her why she would do such a thing to me...
She said "I told you I had problems!!"
She acted really really cold towards after that. She didn't care about my feelings anymore it seemed, I couldn't take it, it was too much, It couldn't be the same women I have met just 2 months ago!!
So I called her up, saying I wanted to see her again and I was crying....
She said"ok..."
We met up again and she felt really really bad for me, admitting she was wrong for doing it. That night she said a few things...
"I always run away, I get scared"
"The reason why it was so easy with my ex because he lived far"
"I am still in-love with my ex"
Didn't know if I could believe this or not. We got back together........, but only friends with benefits for now since she was claiming she was not ready for a relationship
She was crazy about me again it seemed, the last night we hung out we had a great time.....
After a week of being back together, she blocked me again. also her friend blocked me as well...
At this point I was I like......**** IT!!
But than again I figured she wasn't ready for a relationship....intill just a week later
she was already seeing someone else and a week after that......., she is already in another relationship.....
She doesn't even want to my friend, yet she is still friends with her ex!
Why did she do it? what did I do wrong!?
Well she seems to be getting along with this new guy quite well....
Like I said I still get the feeling it was my fault....
Because if she didn't want a relationship right now, why would she just date some new guy out of the blu
I know you guys can't read her mind or anything but in your opinion, what do you think happened?
Thank to those who took the time to read this.

Hi Aaron,
First, you are very young so I'm going to tell you something you haven't learned yet in life: Sometimes men and women are just plain a*sholes and do shi*tty things to each other for no real reason. Some people are just bad news. The worse the person is, the more they seem to suck you into their world. Your only goal right now to to get as far away from this girl as possible. Do not contact her and if she contacts you, ignore her. She is probably right. When someone tells you they are crazy, has issues, or anything negative about themselves, believe them. This is one of life's most valuable lessons to learn. People show you who they are in the beginning of a relationship and they rarely change. Instead its you who gets confused. From the outside looking in, you got involved with someone with obvious issues. Reading your post, it seems the best time in your rel'ship was before you two actually met. Its easy to be nice and sweet over the computer. You have no idea if there ever even was a boyfriend. FOr all you know, she created a separate email account and emailed you herself pretending to be her ex. We've all been there - gotten involved with people with serious problems and issues, trying to help them and ending up getting seriously burned by them. You can't understand why she did what she did anymore than I can understand why some guys have done what they did to me. Block her from your myspace account and then step away from meeting girls online and try and get out there and meet some in real life.
JMHO,
Ivy
3 words...
MySpace is EVIL!!!!
It is a false reality that creates more problems than there need to be in relationships. I met my ex on myspace and we had a great relationship..UNTIL Myspace chicks began emailing him.. EMAILING ME about him!!! It was nuts.
Now.. dont get me wrong.. I know that no matter what happened, it was still about our issues.. but having myspace accounts didnt make it easier and created more problems..relationships are work, there is no need to add MORE work to them.
that is why I have stepped away from the false realities of myspace, hi5, friendster, etc..
look for someone real...something real..BLOCK THIS CHICK..she will only bring you more heartache and confusion..
hope it helps
Missy
The first HUGE red flag was from the get-go - she was trying to hook up with you before being out of the relationship she was in....regardless of the cirumstances....
AND true to her pattern, she did the EXACT same thing to you:
"she was already seeing someone else and a week after that......., she is already in another relationship....."
But that doesn't really specifically answer your question. What did you do wrong? Hmm, didn't see the red flag, ignored it, fell for a girl that was unavailable in almost every way, didn't listen when she said she was messed up emotionally.
You can't save her or help her. Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie
HI AARON
I'M SO SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPEN TO YOU...AS A FRIENDLY ADVISED IF YOU WANT TO HAVE A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP..."DONT DATE ANYONE ON THE WEB"...MOST OF THEM JUST LOOKING FOR FUN AND MOST LIKELY THEIR LOOKING FOR A PERSON THAT THEY COULD USED FOR MONEY...BELIEVED ME..
YOUR SO YOUNG AND MORE EXPERIENCE THAT YOU WILL HAVE SO BE READY. DONT FEEL BAD YOUR A GUY YOU DIDNT LOST ANYTHING..TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!!!
GOOD LUCK
Its not easy for me to move on. Because me and her loved each other very very much
Hell, the last night we spend together was wonderful. She didn't want me to leave that night but we both know that I had to lol. She said she would call me tomorrow...
She loved me alot. I know it. I saw it in her eyes.....she took me back after dumping me and felt really really bad for it. She cried.......
She cared about me alot. Like I said, sometimes I think it was something I did.
I haven't spoken to her in awhile now and she is still with her new boyfriend. Do you think it was possible she was seeing this guy before she got rid of me?