Why did my feelings stop?

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Why did my feelings stop?
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:32am

It's been a while since I have been on these boards. And actually when I put stuff on here, I know the answer but I guess I just need some support...bad. I'm a 20 yr old girl, and I think I am in love with the idea of being in love. I met a guy around the 4th of July and immediately felt something. I was crazy about him and couldn't stop thinking about him, we started hanging out a lot and then boom. My feelings just quit. I don't understand how I liked him so much to not being sure? I started to get that feeling in my stomach like something's not right. But I've wanted a guy so bad, and it's summer and all and I just wanted it to work so bad! Everything seemed right and he was even willing to commit. Why do I do this? I've been with 2 guys before that I get this sick feeling with and I just end it, but the feelings were usually never there in the first place. But with this new guy, I actually liked him at first. It just makes me feel like this is gonna happen everytime and I'm just never going to find someone where my feelings are constant. I do have anxiety and take medicine for it, and thought that maybe my wishy washy thoughts are from that, but if I have to take a pill in order to know how I feel about sometime...to me that is crazy. I guess I would just like some insight on why this has happened. I think I overanalyze things and go too fast with things. I mean I've only known the guy for about 2 weeks! I know your're thinking it's too soon to tell, or to just go slow with things, but I feel like it's already fizzled because things went too fast, or maybe my gut feeling is a blessing in disguise telling me that he's not it. It just sucks because I get so close and then either the guy fades away or I do. I've never had it work. I should also mention he's never really taken me on an actual date, and he got really drunk one night and kept telling me he loved me. And it's only been 2 weeks. He just got out of a relationship a month and a half ago as well. He also takes anti-depressants and we are sort of a like because we both change our minds a lot (he hasn't about his feelings though). I feel he has a lot of baggage and problems sort of, and I kinda do too, and maybe I need someone more level-headed, I don't know.

Please any advice, opinions or anything will help!!




Edited 7/16/2007 10:34 am ET by precious2be
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 10:38pm

Welcome back to the board precious2be,


My guess is that you quickly make a new guy the source of your happiness on some level.