Why do I keep replaying what he said?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2006
Why do I keep replaying what he said?
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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 8:04pm

It's been 3 weeks since we broke up. I keep hearing over and over in my head the same things.
"I still want you in my life. I want to keep the communication between us."
"Call me if you want to talk."
" I will always love you."

I am going crazy inside. Am I the only one who thinks this?
What am I to think?

Thanks for listening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2007
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 8:16pm
Isn't that the truth,the replaying of the forever burned in your brain,tape.Mine told me he still loved me very much & missed me,But yet the next day he posted on a personals website,as "freebird",no less.I really don't know what to tell ya except when you hear that "tape" just tell yourself "stop",i'm 10 days out & all last night ,my "tape" was running,too.My Doctor said my biggest enemy is my brain right now.My thoughts.They are there but sometimes you can calm yourself.You have to keep telling yourself ,HE did this ,don't let him destroy you!Your self esteem.I know i'm right there in the same boat with ya.keep posting ,read the posts,it helps.Hang in there.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:20am

I had an ex show up on my door step in the middle of the night after a year and a half of no contact (he was also newly married)crying to me about how much he loved and missed me and was afraid he made a mistake marrying someone else. (We broke up because he wasn't sure he wanted to marry me.) I replayed that conversation in my head for a couple of weeks and then I decided to change the tape. After every sentence I would insert the word "Lie". I felt that,if he had really felt all of those things, our relationship would have worked out differently. By inserting that one little word and changing the tape, i was able to get past replaying the conversation all the time. Maybe this will work for you.

YG