why do I think of him??

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Registered: 09-04-2006
why do I think of him??
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Sat, 03-17-2007 - 3:11am

It has been three months we haven't seen each other, only send some texts once in a while. We are in different states now, which makes the situation alot easier for me. and I tried my best to accept that he is not in my life anymore and I know I have to focus on myself.

However, he is still in my mind alot. When I'm feeling low, I know it's nothing good would come out by contacting him, but I'm feeling good, or see something funny, I just really want to tell him. like last night after watching "hot fuzz" (good movie, remmend to everyone : ), I sent a text to him... haven't got reply, not feeling good about it.

why do i still think of hime too much, is it because I have on other male friends around? or do I still have feelings for him (i think I do)...

there are so much ups and downs...I just really want to get over him and move on!!!

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Registered: 01-01-2007
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 8:45am

Echo-
I think I read a post from you awhile back. Was it you who said that you guys lived together and you broke up then you were moving out of state and had found a new job and were just hoping that he'd stop you. I might be wrong.

I am in that same boat right now and still have some but very little contact with my ex of almost 3 mths now. I think about him and just want to tell him the silly things that I see or think about. But then I remember that we're not dating anymore and I don't call. I've been pretty good about not breaking down and I don't call him, I might answer his call when he calls me (he goes thru phases where he'll call me a lot during the wk usually for dumb things but I don't always answer).
I'm sad but also looking forward to moving out of state b/c I really think it'll help me move on.

I think it's normal to want to talk to him the way you do but do what you've been doing and don't stress out. Just do something else, read a book go to the mall, go to Borders or Barnes and Nobles, order take out--ya know it usually takes most places 25 min to get to you and if you're focusing on that thats 25 min he doesn't get of your time.

Keep your chin up.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 9:45am

Welcome back echohhh,


Here's your previous posts to refresh my memory and for others to catch up on your story:


live with ex after breaking up???


It's so hard, need help!


sometimes need a cuddle


I think that everything you feel is normal.

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Registered: 09-04-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 2:15am

itwinflame,
thank you for bringing my stroy up : )

something update, we texted each other last saturday. and I told him I wanted to have a holiday and go to visit him. He replied he could NOT think anything better than to see me, but he asked if i was ready to see him again, his ex moved too, and she lived with him again!He didn't tell me because he didn't want me to hate him or leave his life...

I was just so shocked! I know he might have no feelings for his ex, but they have been together for 4 years, seems like they are still back together.

I remember the converstion between MR. Big and Carrie in 'Sex and the City'
-- "You know I would never hurt you deliberately." MR. Gig said.
-- "I know you wouldn't.... It was just such a shock. I guess it was a shock I needed to hear to move on or something.
I wish you all the best. I do. I hope you and her will be very happy."
-- "do you mean that?"
-- "no...but I will." ...

think it's really time for me to move on...I didn't reply him, I hope I will have strength to never talk to him again!
thank u for listening!




Edited 3/19/2007 9:40 am ET by echohhh
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Registered: 02-28-2007
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 9:13am
I am in the same boat as you are. I don't feel like the relationship was allowed to run its course, because he is moving out of state. He kept me on the string for the past month... telling me he wanted to be with me, but wanted something more casual... A month later, we barely talk. So last night, I broke it off completely. I realized how much this "string" was hindering my life. I couldn't concentrate, eat, sleep. More than anything, I want to move on. Yes... I miss him like crazy. Yes, I would love to smell him again and be in his arms. But thats not going to happen. Its time for me to move on no matter how much i dont want to... This is for my own sanity at this point in time. I am thinking about ME right now. So I am doing NO CONTACT. I took him off everything...IM, Phone, Myspace, Facebook. I also sent him all his stuff back. All these reminders are now gone. Its almost a relief. So hun, feel empowered. Start doing whats best for you. You will go insane if you don't.