Why do they do this stuff??????

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Registered: 05-10-2007
Why do they do this stuff??????
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 2:52pm

The night my ex and I broke up, before he officially ended it,
we had been discussing my son's 8th grade graduation. I invited
him and his son. He said he wanted to know that it was my son
that wanted him there, and that my son should invite him
personally. Hand him the invitation. (He was mad at my son
because he had lied to me and his coach, and had told my son
that he was too disrespectful and ungrateful) Well, later that
night he broke up with me.

Of course I did not think that he would come to the graduation. My
son was angry, and justifiably so, that my ex had yelled at him for
lying to me, but the whole time my ex had been lying to me. Needless
to say there was no hand delivered invitation.

Last night was graduation and who shows up? Yep, the ex and his son.
I saw him, but he didn't see me. He spoke to my son and my son was
gracious as he has been taught to be. My ex's son is 8, so I assumed
he would not stay for the entire event, heck after an hour of it *I*
was bored.I didn't see him afterward, but was careful to surround
myself with a couple other mothers who know my ex from lacrosse.
They were great! We left without seeing him. I ws so relieved.

Last night about 10:30 my cell rings. My son grabbed it, opened it
and handed it to me before I could see that it was my ex. He called
to tell me he had been to the graduation to pay his respects to my son
and wanted me to know he had been there. He said that he came because
he had been invited and assumed the invitation was still good.

long pause on my end of the phone.

I was gracious, after a moment, said thank you for coming, I appreciate
you supporting my son. He chatted briefly with me, we were pleasant,
I was upbeat and never once mentioned that I wanted to hit him with
something big, likemy car.

Why do they do this???????

Better still, we have a business function this weekend. It is an all day
event, I will attend and have told him so, he may but isn't sure.
So I may have to see him again this week. Luckily all the contacts
at this party were ones I made, so I will be comfortable. I suggested
that neither of us bring dates (like I was going to) because it would
be uncomfortable for not only the the business folks, but for the
dates as well.

If he brings her I don't know if I can stop myself from telling her the
truth, that I was girlfriend of 5 years when he started dating her.
I won't, I know that it will just make me look bad in the long
run. I will behave with class and dignity. But I will still want to
hit him with my car.

I'm taking a girlfriend for moral support. Maybe she'd better drive.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 4:54pm

Hi asutherngrl,


Sounds like he wants you think of him 'as a good guy'.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-10-2007
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 5:13pm

I can't imagine that after how he treated me he'd even care.
I just keep shaking my head in disbelief. He was adamant
about my son inviting him.

Boys are weird.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 5:17pm
LOL - the ego makes both 'boys' and 'girls' do the strangest things.