Why does he keep hurting me?
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Why does he keep hurting me?
| Mon, 05-15-2006 - 9:46am |
we agreed not to talk till june first, then yesterday he called to please have me tell my mom happy mothers day, then he went on to say how much he misses me and how much he loves me! He asked me have i met anyone? and i told him no i'm not looking and simply put i'm not interested in anyone else! so, i asked him and you? he said he's hung out with some girls, he's taken some numbers, and given his number out but he hasn't kissed anyone or had sex with anyone. And that he wasn't going to. Why would he tell me all those things? If this break was to make himself a better man then why is he hanging out with random women to feel wanted when i tell him how much i want him? why does he keep hurting me? so i called him back up and told him come june first nothings going to change, he's just going to tell me he needs more time and the heartbreak is still going to be there, so i told him there is no june first anymore! was i wrong for doing that? and why am i still feeling so sad and depressed? he said his intentions are not to look for anyone else, he's got to focus on number one (him), i just felt like his intentions were very clear because those girls aren't going to know that he doesn't want anyting!i hope i did the right thing! please any advice would be greatly appreciated right now! Thank you.

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He keeps hurting you because you keep giving him the opportunity.
You say June 1st and then you don't stick to it. You allow him to manipulate you by invoking your MOTHER for crying out loud, and then he gives you a hurtful earful and you just take it.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING by breaking this off. He didn't stick to the stated boundries and then he tried to manipulate you into jealousy. This is all very immature behavior and I think you are being VERY MATURE to move on.
Move on to someone who isn't in it for the drama. Someone who just adores you. Someone who wants to know how your day was, genuinely wants to know, genuinely cares...in other words: A real man.
A real man would never do what this guy is doing. Move on. If he miraculously grows up and suddenly sticks to the rules, fine, otherwise...NEXT!
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