Why is he still contacting me?
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| Sat, 03-22-2008 - 3:00pm |
Ok..so last week my ex decided to give me a call on the phone (unexpectedly) and I answered the phone thinking it was recruitment agent calling me up for potential job offer. He kept trying to get reassurance from me that the break up was the right thing to do etc (long story if you don't know whats happened its on another thread in the reconciling and healing section). Asked how i was..i just said that i was ok and trying to get on with my life now and then he went about his job thing again to me and finished the conversation with let him know how i'm doing and then we said our goodbyes.
I thought that would be the last i hear from him andthen last night he emails me wishing me a happy easter weekend and asking me what i'm doing and how i'm feeling etc. Then he writes about his job situation again and then signs off by saying take care. The annoying thing was that he called me by my petname that he used to call me when we were together! Argh!
What the hell does he want from me? He hasn't said that he wants me back so why the hell does he contact me? I never initiated any contact anymore either.

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I haven't gone out of my way to contact him...when he does i just leave it. I just don't want to deal with it. I had a weak moment and did send him a birthday greeting..he did reply and said thank you and signed off with the word kisses. I dont think it means anything at all really. for now i will not contact him anymore...i sent him a birthday greeting and that was it and i knew that he would just say thank you. I don't want to contact him anymore..i'm not upset right now...its sort of weird...i don't feel upset or angry as much as i had been when the break up was still very fresh and raw.
Hi Sandra
I know what you mean by not giving him a piece of me bit by bit. You're right in that if i do contact him it will only lessen the guilt of the break up for him. He didn't even have to call me...he already sent a text but i never replied to it. Besides when i think of the voicemail message he left on my phone he sounded like he was miserable for leaving a message and sounded miserable when he says that he is sending me kisses...whatever!Then he signs off by saying that i can call him to talk to him if i wanted to. doesn't exactly sound like a person happy to talk right? The miserable tone in his voice just didn't make me want to contact him. Right now feeling a lot of mixed emotions...no urge to contact him but just a sense of anger and hurting all over again. it comes and goes. Is this normal?
Your right...breaking my heart should not be an easy thing. Am reading some of these self help books right now...but it helps to read it. Currently reading he said, she said..there are things that i can identify with.
As for the job hunting...almost got a temping job...but got pipped to the post by another person as they had experience in a particular financial software package..oh well! I got to perservere with it right? Starting to get a little worried and freaking out over it. No matter how hard I try I don't seem to get anything right now (due to visa issues as well i might add - so can only get temping work) Anybody out there reading this working in the financial services industry in the UK, are you able to help out?...its a long shot! lol
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