why is he still messing with me???
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| Tue, 08-14-2007 - 8:47pm |
I just got back from a week long holiday...but the day before i left, i got a message from my ex...these were his exact words :- "Sorry to disturb you..Just wanna say i miss you..It seems ridiculous and stupid but i cannot explain it though. I hope you are well..have a safe trip and enjoy lots"
What in the world was he thinking??He was the one who said that he can't give me all his love and all that crap..and a week later he sends me a message to confuse the hell out of me and it's playing on my emotions again...
I didn't reply him or anything..i mean..what does he expect me to say? that i miss him too? that i wish we could get back together?? C'mon...i'm still so hurt over his actions and i don't want him to play me out like before again...
I really don't know what he wants..it's been more than a week since his message..and i just saw him at the gym yesterday (we go to the same place) but i just ignored him..
I'm not big enough to be friends with someone who broke my heart in a million pieces...and i'm still a huge mess (we broke up 2 1/2 weeks ago)..and even if i wanna try to be friends...thoughts of us as a couple is still too strong and i won't even know where to begin to being friends...
I don't know how to get over him..i'm trying so hard to be happy again..but at times, i still break down. I was so totally in love with him, and i guess i still am..even after what he has done to me..cheating and lying behind my back..i just wish i never met him..my life would have been so much simplier and so much happier.

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I see GUILT ALLEVIATION written all over that text message. He's either trying to make himself feel better with "Oh I'll send her a nice message so she wont' think I'm such a bastard, and therefore I don't have to feel so guilty"
For future messages, just delete them. Change your gym time. Change gyms.
There's no rule that says you need to be his friend. I'm not a fan of this being a "big". I think it's just setting yourself up for failure at this stage. Concentrate on ME ME ME, and forget being "BIG".
He's only messing with you because you let him. Erase him, and you erase the mess. My ex used to stick his 'fabulous single life activities' into his MSN name alll the time. Drove me mad until the day I deleted him off my list. Perhaps he's still doing it, I wouldn't know. In the same way, your ex may send you text messages, but nobody says you need to read them.
cheers
Susanna
Welcome back
thanks for your reply..i know that there were good times...but now whatever that we shared before all seems like it was a huge lie. That it didn't really happen..know what i mean?
So when i reflect back..it makes me miss him more. So i'd rather just not think about it and trying my hardest to forget it..i know it takes time to heal...but damn..it seems like a lifetime before i can really move on again..
>hugz<
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement! It means so much that someone knows exactly what I’m feeling and going through..guys just suck. Plain and simple. They can’t seem to make up their minds and while we know what we want..they just keep confusing us with their stupid messages and giving us hope that maybe they will come to their senses and realize they can’t live without us…haha..fat hope.
But I totally agree with you when you say that you miss him and it hurts like hell when he contacts you…I feel the same. Its hard to go through…but I’m taking it a day at a time..i do have my low points..but I try my best to get through it with the help of my friends and by pouring it all out here
Lets show them what they are missing! And that they made the biggest mistake of their lives when they walked away!!
>hugzzzzz<
That is the worst!! When your guy says he loves you so much and wants nothing more than to be with you. But then WHY THE HECK ARE YOU NOT WITH ME???!!! If his heart hurts then why not make it better and BE with the person you love??!!
It's like if WE loved someone so much and we were going through our problems, I feel like we would make it work because relationships are important and you WANT to be with someone you love!
It's so frustrating when they tell you they love you, but I guess they don't love enough to try to work for it. I'm going through the same thing. And I realized I can't keep on being strung on. It IS confusing.
And there's nothing you can do. Except do nothing.
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