Why is it...

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Why is it...
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 12:52pm

That male species dont show their emotions?

Today my ex moved out. I was sat on the stairs crying my eyes out watching him pack his stuff into his parents car. We spoke for 5 minutes and he said to me to make sure i get myself sorted out and that he didnt want me to phone him, then he says im going and walks out the front door without even looking at me.

I find this soo confussing as surely after 2 years of being and living with me he would at least feel a bit sad?

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Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: k8ielou2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 1:38pm
Oooooohh, that jerk! He's just adding insult to injury. He's being a REAL A$$ to you and you definitely don't derseve that. I'm so sorry he did that to you, it was very unneccesary and mean! I don't understand how some people can become so cold sometimes, he must be hiding from his real feelings, or he was raised by wolves and just mean as a snake. Heres a hug and a shoulder to cry on, I know that hurt your feelings. Cry it out, and curse him, and then take a deep breath. THis will pass too, and you will find yourself in a better place, I promise. Hold your head up and go look at that house. The sooner you can get in your own place the better. You'll be so busy with moving on that you won't even remember crying over whats his face...lol. Well maybe not that quickly but at least this side of him came out and you can remember it in a couple of months if you start to only remember the good times and want to call him. He really stinks, and don't think he's all happy with some chic he met friday night, she's got nothing on you, I promise. You've been graceful and honest with your feelings, and you can be proud. You are stronger than you think, and you will get through this. Good for you, going to the doctor, take little moments to think of happier things and your apetite will come back. Vent here, write unsent letters to get your anger out and hurt. Get it all out, and you will feel better soon. Lots and lots of hugs.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: k8ielou2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 2:44pm

Wow, what a sucky day for you. Sorry you're going through this change in your life.

To answer your first question, the male species in general does show emotions. Some more than others. I'm guessing that the break up and move out was his idea, or his innitiating anyway. The reason he was so cold and matter of fact about it all was probably for many reasons, two in specific. 1, he didn't want to be overly nice or concerned and have you getting a shred of false hope from his niceness towards you. (i.e. maybe we'll get back together or this is temporary since he's acting like this..). And 2, this revelation of break up and move out isn't a shock to him. It's not something that was suddenly thrust apon him, he's had a while to mull over the decision and come to it on his own. He's gotten used to the idea that you two are no longer a we.

None of that helps, but it at least ends any confussion about why. Now the only question you need to be asking is How dumb is he to let a wonderful gal like you go?