Why me???

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Registered: 02-18-2007
Why me???
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 1:23pm

Hi All,

Sorry in advance for the negative post - however I really need to vent this & maybe get some advice.

In 2003, my fiance (we had been together almost 3 years & lived together 2 - 2 years of spending every moment together) cheated on me with a girl he met online. He refused to break contact with her and continued to see her behind my back - I left him when this came to light, he repeatedly told me that she was better than me in many ways (not nice!)

To cut a long story short, to help me get over this I moved to a different area of the UK with friends & to start a new life - 3 months after this I met a wonderful guy & fell in love with him. We were together almost 3 years and very happy. 2 weeks ago today, he tells me that he loves me but is not 'in love' with me - he said that he could see no future if he is not in love, how can he be expected to get married etc if he is not in love??

This has come as a devastating blow to me and I haven't even begun to get over it yet. I just keep thinking, after ex no 1, why me??? And is there any point starting over in the future just to have this happen again?? Why does no one want me :( ?? I know that there are people worse off than me and that there are bigger problems in the world, however this really does feel like the end of the world to me.

Any advice would be muchly appreciated x x

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Registered: 02-21-2007
In reply to: jen_girly22
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 12:19am
Well, I'm probably not the best one to be replying to you, since I'm just going through it myself, wondering what it was that made me seem so unloveable. But obviously you have something about you these guys thought was worth devoting several years to. That's something. There is always hope for the future, you alone are worth it, there will be "the one" that can appreciate all of you for you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: jen_girly22
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 11:58am

Hi Jen and welcome to the board.