Why oh why
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Why oh why
| Wed, 06-21-2006 - 8:48am |
Ugh! 3 weeks ago my ex sent me a casual e-mail "just wanting to say hi". Today I get to work and see he emailed me again saying that 2 doctors had left messages on the answering machine reminding me of appointments (we used to live together & I hadn't changed my phone # with the doctors yet). If he's going to contact me, WHY can't he say the things I want him to say like I love you, I miss you, let's talk, etc. Instead I get this casual crap like we're old pals. It's so frustrating. I am so tempted to email him back but I know I shouldn't. I haven't initiated contact at all since we broke up 2 months ago, so I guess I can be proud of that. He is the one who has emailed me 3 times, but about stupid stuff. How can you go out with someone for 5 years and be so casual like that? Why can't he hurt like I do? Why can't he be devastated that he lost me?

He's now your ex. You just have to remember that. He doesn't have to act like a boyfriend anymore. I know that it hurts but that is the way it is.
Just deal with him as an acquaintance you used to know. Because that is what is left. You'll be okay after a while. Come hang out here and read all of the other posts, including the older ones, they'll help you quite a bit..
People deal with breakups in different ways. For some, it's to be distant. Actually, it is easier to deal with, because otherwise you'd be left with a false hope or wondering why he's going back and forth with feelings.
Try not to question his motives or anything too much and just concentrate on getting yourself back together and stronger, that's really what's important here..
And change all of your addresses and phone numbers from doctors,etc. so that you don't have to deal with this anymore!!
Good luck.
For me, the only way to get over an ex that you were in love with is to break all contact and move on. Explain to him that unless he wants to work on getting back together, that do not contact you for anything. It takes years for me to become "just friends" with an ex not months.
Good Luck!