Why is this so exhausting??
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| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 9:44pm |
Hi-
Bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago and so far I think I have been doing sort of O.K. To sum up our history, I've known him for 4 years and have dated him for the last year and a half. We were long distance and only saw each other every few months. We talked all the time though...he is by far one of my best friends. When he broke up with me I was devestated....it was completely out of the blue for the most part and now I feel like my world is hopeless. I wonder if I will find someone else, how will I meet that person, will I ever get over him, etc. I keep telling myself that things happen for a reason and that I am better off without him. I am trying to stay busy to keep my mind off of it all. Why is it all so exhausting though? I am tired of having to tell myself everyday that this will all work out, that I will find someone again. I am so angry that this happened to me, that I have to deal with it. And I am so angry at my old bf for breaking my heart. I am 26 and have had a lot of crappy things happen to me in my life. I know that everyone goes through really difficult times in their life, but I don't want to have to go through another thing. I want it to be my turn to have a good thing in my life. How does everyone get through this phase of the break-up process? Thanks in advance for any advice you have!

It's normal the way you're feeling right now. You lost a loved one and you're grieving, your hurt and angry. Acceptance will come at last and you'll be able to move on.
You're doing the right thing. You're keeping busy and such. Take up a hobbie and do things that you enjoy. This time ia all about you and your needs. The ex is out there living his life and you should live yours. Don't think in him so often, don't allow him to define who you are. He didn't appreciate you fully.
Think about what you want and expect in life and from a relationship. Set up boundaries and goals. Enforce your boundaries to get the respect you deserve. You'll find the person for you one you've worked on yourself and are happy with who you are.
For next time, I'd suggest to date someone locally. The chances to get to know him better are higher than they are in a LDR.