Why Stay Friends?!

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Registered: 09-06-2004
Why Stay Friends?!
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Mon, 09-06-2004 - 9:12pm
Why does this always happen? Why do they always want to remain friends? Why should we? We didn't care enough to stay lovers, how can we stay friends?!

Is it even possible?

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 7:20am
They want to stay friends because they know that there will always be someone there waiting for them. It sucks.

There is no way that we can be friends with our exs after a break up. A friend is someone who helps you, supports you in difficult moments, how can you get any support from the same person that is hurting you?.

I think that eventually we overcome this pain and only then we are ready to see them again without any emotional problem. It means that only when we are over them is possible to become friends. Of course every case is different, do you see yourself as his friend in ten years from now?. If you still have positive things to share with him, something in common, then you should leave the possibility open, but don't use this as an excuse to be his friend now!!! it is not going to work!!!

My ex dumped me and he wants to stay friends. Obviously I cannot be his friend under any circumstances now. However we do have so many things in common, we were soul mates regarding other aspects of life, we talked a lot about philosophy, religion, politics and I am sure that we could become very good friends in the future. This means that I do want to contact him again in the long term (10 or 20 years) because I really want to be his friend without any passional involvement. But only in the long distance I will be ready.

Iliana