Why women leave?
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Why women leave?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 10:18pm |
My wife recently left after we have been together for 15 years, 6 of which we have been married. I wasnt expecting it and it has been tough, she moved out just 2 weeks ago. After talking to many people I know, I have come to the conclusion that women usually leave their husbands. I have spoken with a multitude of people I work with and friends and family and all together i have only found a couple cases where the husband left the wife after they were married and had children but I have found MANY cases where the woman left her husband. Why is this? Do you think there is a genetic/reproductive reason for this? Im not saying women are bad or anything and I realize that men stray from relationships more often than women, but they dont initiate a legal divorce nearly as much. Most of the men that I have talked to were devestated when their wives left them, many were suprised and would have liked to work things out.
My wife dropped this leaving thing on me out of the blue and she is not interested in any type of counceling or even trying to make our relationship work. We have 2 children and they deserve better than to grow up in a broken marriage.
It does seem that men are just as likely to leave their girlfriends or fiancees or maybe even more likely to leave before marriage and Im not saying all cases are like this but its obvious enough to make me notice that there is a trend.

Is it right? No. But I think it's true.
CFH
My impression is that at least some women leave because they feel unappreciated and unloved, and in many cases, think that their spouses should just KNOW that there is a problem, as well as how to fix it. Or, they feel they have tried and tried to address the issues (even if they have done so indirectly), and nothing has worked, so when they finally make the decision to leave, there is just nothing left, and they are no longer interested in working on it. Part of that is resentment that it takes announcing that they are leaving to get their spouses to suggest or agree to counseling.
You might find it illuminating to read posts on the "Should I Stay or Should I Go" board.
Sheri
I don't have any input on women leaving more than men... I would've stayed and continued trying. My stb-x decided the marriage was "boring"... sigh... yup... paying bills and yardwork IS sometimes...
take care of you... hope it gets better in time.