Why Won't He Tell People We're Through?!
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Why Won't He Tell People We're Through?!
| Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:00pm |
Ok, so he broke up with me after 10 months. We have one silly fight, he says he's done and there's no chance for a reconciliation b/c he's given all he has to give.
So, now that we're done and have been for about 3 weeks (even though just last week we spent the entire wknd together and he led me to believe that we did have a chance to get back together), why won't he tell any of his friends? They all still think things are fine between us and email me to see if we want to go to dinner, etc.
Don't you think it's his responsibility to start letting his friends know? Why do I have to do his dirty work or pretend everything's ok?

He may not be telling them because he's embarrassed or doesn't want to answer questions.
Since you are getting emails, either delete them without responding, forward them to him, or tell them what's going on. As for doing his dirty work, well that's one way of looking at it, the other is to 'speak your truth' when you get an email regardless of whether or not you think you are doing the dirty work.
Carrie
Maybe he's embarrassed because he knows he's using you for FWB/booty call and he doesn't want his friends to know.
You don't have to do his dirty work for him, nor do you have to pretend, if you don't want to. If you'd prefer not to get those emails anymore, though, I would just respond something like, "thanks for the invitation, but I guess you haven't heard that X and I have broken up."
Sheri
Yep, I'll be doing exactly that!
Oh, and he definitely won't be getting any FWB/booty calls from me or vice versa. I just wondered why if he was done with the relationship, he's not letting it be known. I think he's definitely embarrased and knows his friends will think he's crazy for letting me go - Ha!
Thanks!