Will I Ever Get Over Him?
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Will I Ever Get Over Him?
| Wed, 08-04-2004 - 8:43pm |
Hi! I am having a rough day. My ex and I were on and off for quite sometime, but it wasn't until recently that it felt like it was really over. Neither of us want to speak to each other and it was a pretty bad break.
I have a feeling that he is probably dating someone else. He deals with his pain/ anger by finding someone to occupy him. I am sad that he can move on so quickly, but that is his character. He may not be moving on.. just easing his pain.
I, on the other hand, cannot even think of dating someone else. Every time I do go on dates, I end up comparing them to my ex. I honestly believe that I will never get the feeling that I ad with him from anyone else again. I am happiest when I am with him.
I honestly thought I would marry this man, and although I know that this still may be an option... I am trying not to think of it. But the thing is... I don't want to get over him. I want to have hope that we will make it one day. I don't want to give up on my dreams. However, I realize that if I keep thinking like this I could just be setting myself up for more hurt.
I know we love each other. There was never a doubt if the love was there. We just had some issues.
I miss him so much. I love him so much. I cannot wait until the day where I can see and talk to him again.
Any advice as to what to do? I am a teacher, I know things will get better once school starts... but until then I have so much time to think about things. I am going to drive myself crazy.
I have a feeling that he is probably dating someone else. He deals with his pain/ anger by finding someone to occupy him. I am sad that he can move on so quickly, but that is his character. He may not be moving on.. just easing his pain.
I, on the other hand, cannot even think of dating someone else. Every time I do go on dates, I end up comparing them to my ex. I honestly believe that I will never get the feeling that I ad with him from anyone else again. I am happiest when I am with him.
I honestly thought I would marry this man, and although I know that this still may be an option... I am trying not to think of it. But the thing is... I don't want to get over him. I want to have hope that we will make it one day. I don't want to give up on my dreams. However, I realize that if I keep thinking like this I could just be setting myself up for more hurt.
I know we love each other. There was never a doubt if the love was there. We just had some issues.
I miss him so much. I love him so much. I cannot wait until the day where I can see and talk to him again.
Any advice as to what to do? I am a teacher, I know things will get better once school starts... but until then I have so much time to think about things. I am going to drive myself crazy.

I understand about having too much time, I am also a teacher and going through this horrible ordeal. I am at about 2 mos 3 wks...and boy does this su*k. I think that if we were working right now it would be different, we wouldn't have as much time to dwell. But hopefully this means we are really doing all the healing needed and not avoiding any of this d*mn pain.
I am struggling with wanting to get over him and not. I know I need to b/c my ex is a commitment-phobe, but on the other hand I am still thinking "what if?" There is a possibility that he will change. We dated for 3.5 yrs, he loved me, but he wanted to date other people. I love him so much. I am 33 and never thought I would find myself in this situation again. (maybe in the back of my mind I knew. He is 29 and I was his first relationship, perhaps that was a red flag.)
AARRGGHH, I am doing my best to keep busy and get over him. I wish you both luck and in about a month we will be back at school, keeping busy, and maybe wishing that we had some time off. ;) Feel free to email: svillavi@csulb.edu