Wishing we could be Civil

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2006
Wishing we could be Civil
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Sun, 06-03-2007 - 10:04am

Ex and I broke up in January. I am almost 100% over him, sure the thought enters my mind etc but I have not contacted him in a while etc. I was the one who broke up despite loving him. We had way to many complications and the relationship was toxic.

Anyhow, I am dating a new guy who is awesome and we have a MUCH healther relationship. We see each other 2 or 3 times a week when I don't have my kids. We like to go out clubbing, playing pool, and to outdoor concerts either alone or with friends quite a bit. However, my Ex and I use to do the same things and as people here tend to go out more in the summer, I think it is inevidentalbe that we will run into my Ex while out.

Please don't say to find new things, we do that too. But I should not have to get my new boyfriend to go to different places all the time cause of my ex. I would like to somehow build a civil relationship so that when we see each other out it will not be a drama.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 06-03-2007 - 10:11am
It sounds like you are willing to be civil to him, so do it. If you see him out say "hi, how are you" chat keep it light and move on. If he doesn't want to look at you, than don't worry about it. If he starts talking about your relationship just tell him that your relationship is very special to you but it is over now and you would rather forget all the bad parts and not fight. You don't have to have drama if you don't create it or play into it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2006
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 1:50am
I am willing, I jst hope he is. He is the jealous type