Worst Ways to Get Dumped?

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Worst Ways to Get Dumped?
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:57pm
Remember when Carrie on Sex and the City was dumped via post-it? And you've probably heard the story about how Sylvester Stallone broke up with his girlfriend by FedEx. Seems like our modern age is providing us with increasingly, um, "convenient" (and inappropriate) ways to end a relationship... What are the worst ways to break up with somebody these days? Have a jaw-dropping break-up story of your own to share? Let's hear it!
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Registered: 07-27-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 3:41pm

I don't know if its jaw dropping...but I was "dumped" via email. It wasn't even official. Said he got news that he MAY be re-deployed and knew, "unfortunately" that I probably couldn't deal with it but wanted me to think long and hard before we spoke again because he knew he was asking me a lot--never did "ask" me anything though....

Yes, he knew it would upset me--oddly, it didn't, but he just vanished after that. Had nothing to say to my response which was pointing out my support of him and some issues I had been dealing with--unrelated to the possible deployment (...and he has not gone to Iraq and its 3 mos. later...).

I got the suspicious "dear jane" feeling when he added in the middle of said email--I care a lot about you. You offer everything a man could want or need". Apparently, just not him! It was just weird that he would add that. Oh, and he signed it "love (his name)". He never once said that word before. Just odd to me.

I was just another casualty of his string of short-term relationships.

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 3:45pm

This was a topic on a call-in radio show in my area about a month ago!

The worst I heard was a woman who had recently become engaged to a man only a short time later to have a mystery woman appear at her door. Mystery woman said her own fiance sent her to speak to the recently engaged woman, to tell her he was actually engaged to another woman... the mystery woman who had shown up.

I thought I had heard it all until I heard that one.

The woman who called into the show was laughing about it (I think it happened five or six years ago) and said she wished them both luck if they were still together: he, the spineless creep who couldn't tell her to her face the engagement was off, and she, the sad woman who didn't stop and think to herself "1) why is he engaged to someone else; 2) why isn't he telling her it's over himself, and 3) is this how he will deliver news to me in the future?

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 3:52pm

Could add the story of a male friend of mine in the UK, whose Dad suddenly passed when he was 19.

His girlfriend called the morning of his Dad's funeral to say she wouldn't be attending with him. When he asked why, she said had another boyfriend and she was ready to move on.

Yes, on the morning of his Dad's funeral.

mblade2006

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Registered: 08-01-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 4:07pm

I asked someone I was in a LT/live in relationship to marry me.

She never answered me and only cried in response to my proposal. I had to figure out on my own that I'd just been dumped.

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Registered: 03-07-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:43pm

I got dumped via text msg the same day I was fired AND evicted from my apt "I just don't think you're the girl for me" but that was only a month or so into the relationship, and I HAD kissed his best friend...oops!

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 9:28pm

I can't beat some of these, but the morning after i got back from the hospital...I find this email on my desk. I don't think I'd be far off if I thought he'd copied it from the sunday sermon on "hwo to break up with your significant other".

And then of course after he IMed me to call HIM, his mom picks up the phone and tells me he "just walked out the door" when he's replying to my IMs. *shakes head* 22 years old, and your mommy is still fielding your phone calls because you're too much of a pansy to pick up the phone yourself. lol.

But could be worse. Imagine being Minnie Driver. Hear it on Oprah. ==''

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Registered: 07-31-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 9:42am
I guess mine was a pretty bad way to get dumped. My mother was in the hospital at the time because she had lung cancer and I was a mess. I also hated my job and was trying to find a new one. He was leaving to go home to Ohio for a month while he was on break from West Point. We had just gotten back from our trip to Hawaii. When he is leaving to go home he decides we need to go on a break and then a couple of days after he gets home he calls me and tells me it needs to turn into a break up because "he is not ready to get married and that is basically the point our relationship is at: either break up or get married". I think anything not in person is absolutely cowardly...
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Registered: 03-07-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 1:01pm
The breakup I'm on here about is the 2nd in this relationship. The first was in March and done over the phone. He called my DESK AT WORK at 3pm and dumped me. How do you handle that? If he was afraid to do it in person what? He couldn't wait a few hrs till I got home? I grabbed my cell and tried to call him from the bathroom (needed "privacy") but of course the office manager needs to use the facilities then, too. She took one look at me crying and DOVE into the 1st available stall. The first person I told was over Instant Messenger (trying to be discreet). The response? That little frowining face icon. Ya think??
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 3:19pm

I was in my junior year in college, carrying more than a full load of courses in electrical and aerospace engineering.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 7:43pm

My Ex was at work and I drove over to see him. He was sweet and normal.. I asked him if he'd like me to have a nice dinner for him to come home to..he said sure. I asked if I should get some wine..sure..a kiss goodbye and I go home and make his favorite meal..it comes out perfect!! We have normal conversation, discuss remodel ideas..he asked me to go outside to watch the sunset. We each have our glass of wine, holding hands. He looks at me, kisses me one of the sweetest kisses ever and says, "At times like this, it feels so right but I just can't be with you anymore.."

Talk about blindsided! (by the way, you are awesome to share so much with the rest of us!)

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