Worth saving or not?

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Registered: 01-31-2007
Worth saving or not?
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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 1:27am

My girlfriend recently (2 days ago) broke up with after a year and a half together. I just wanted to get outsiders opinions about the situation, because we all know that the outside advise is always better than from the inside.

(we'll call her GF) and I started dating July 2005 (june 27th was our first date - Yes I remember) We enjoyed eachother's company very much. During this time she had mentioned that she would like to move to the other side of the country to go to school in a few years. In March of 2006 after 8 months GF moved back with her mom to save money for our 2 month vacation in late 2006. This was also around the time she had told me that she loved me, but I only had deep feelings for her and cared for her alot. Her mom lives about 5-6hr drive from where I lived, so it was a long distance kinda thing, but that was ok because of her situation. She didnt have to pay rent, had free food and even had a place for her dog to run around. We took turns visiting each other every few weeks, staying for 4 to 5 days together. During her stay there she became really lonely, because she really didnt know anyone there and didnt really do much but sit at home. She had a few break downs because she missed me alot and that she loved me but I were still to love her back.
That was the first time that we had talked about breaking up. She told me that she didnt want to wait around till I loved her. She said that even if I did tell her that I loved her, she wouldnt know if she'd believe me or not. She was there till about middle of Nov 2006 and our trip was at the end of Nov. The trip was great, we had the best time together. Close to the end of the trip (jan 20) things started to get rocky. We never really actually talked about breaking up, but we both knew it was going to happen. One time I remember laying in bed and she whispered "Even though your right infront of me, I miss you so much" She would cry every night and me comforting her. (Now I wish I had done more, I was taking it better than she was) When we were to come back (jan 24) she was to move back to her moms and go to school there, which we had already talked about briefly before our trip. The reason she was going back was she was having trouble finding a place to stay because she had a dog, plus she wanted to go to school full time and not work at the same time. She did say that she broke up with me because she was hurt that I didnt love her, that she couldnt take it anymore, and that she's still crying abot the break up. She did mention that she still loves me and will always love me and that getting back together to work things out isn't out of the question. She dosent realy know if she's going to like going to school there or not. Plus she might meet new people, and hang out with the ones she had already met before we left on our trip. So who knows how long she's going to be there for.

The last few days have been rough for me, especially today. I guess I got a delay reaction from this and today I cried over her, not the entire day, but I had my moment. I dont know if its because we've broken up, but I miss her so much and I cant stand being without her. I know thats just my emotions talking, but I do believe I might be in love with her.

I just wanted to know what people would do in my situation, advise, direction, concerns, whatever. Also valentines is coming up, flowers saying that I miss her?
How does the saying go? If you love them you will let them go, if they love you they'll come back and it was meant to be, if they dont it never was?

Would love to hear from everyone!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 12:41pm

Hi kangaroo,


Have you decided on sending flowers or not?


I know thats just my emotions talking, but I do believe I might be in love with her.


Might is the operative word.