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| Fri, 09-10-2004 - 1:07pm |
So, here's my story...typical...girl wants more, guy can't commit. Girl tries, and guy bails. I had been good, with no contact for about a month. We broke up about a month prior to that, but it was mostly me still contacting, as we tried the whole "friends" thing, but I always knew and even after that first month trial...it was confirmed that the "friends" thing was a very difficult thing to do. So I wised up for ME, and didn't contact for a month although in all honesty I have had strong desires and urges to, and even thought this morning how I felt like emailing him to say, "hi, how are you doing?" sort of deal.
Anyway, so then I surprisingly actually even see an email from him this morning, basically saying how he had his digital camera out and had a nice picture of me, and told me that he does miss me and thinks it would be good to see me sometime, but he is asking me to let him know my opinion on it.
This pretty much is just a "friendly" approach he is making, yes? I'm sure he has no intentions of mixed signals, but I guess it would be much clearer for no mixed signals if he just casually wrote to ask me to hang out and do something, rather than say he missed me and asks my opinion about it, even though it may be him trying to be thoughtful of my healing process.
I'd just like to hear anybody's thoughts on this. Thanks in advance for taking the time out to read/respond. I greatly appreciate it.

I guess I will just never understand the whole "friends" thing. I know he is friends with A LOT of his exes. That was also an issue for us while dating. It was hard for me to deal with. But then it makes me wonder if he tells his "other exes", that he "misses" them and thinks it would be good to see them sometime. Ugh. These thoughts, these thoughts!!! I guess I just don't know what to think of it, and deep down I am hoping for more, but my brain knows to not kid myself.
I just think it would hurt me, cuz it IS like he is getting the best of both worlds... Getting to hang with me, and being free to date others and explore. Well, I guess I can say I have that option too; however, I'm sure he and I both know I have more heart invested into it than he did.
When it comes to telling someone you "miss" them. I guess I don't usually say that to an ex. I'll tell that if I am currently dating them...or a GOOD buddy, but not usually an ex. And here's the funny thing...he hardly to never even said it while we were dating. One time I even asked if he even misses me, although I knew I shouldn't cuz you shouldn't have to ask for those things, but since like I said it's like pulling teeth to get this guy tell me about his feelings, I was just curious, and his response was, "sometimes". Ack...he's so passive, it's annoying.