Wracked with emotion

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Wracked with emotion
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Wed, 11-28-2007 - 1:32pm

I hope you dont mind a guy writing for advice, this is the only forum i have been able to find that addresses so many issues


I'm going thru a painful break up, like all of you. But in my situation- I caused the pain that made her breakup with me. On top of dealing with losing her and the years we had together; I have tremendous guilt because it was all my fault.

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 2:14pm
It's hard to be in a committed relationship when you are so young. Not an excuse but you are being too hard on yourself. Guilt is the worst feeling to have. You spent a year trying to fix a wrong, that's
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 6:05pm

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Wed, 11-28-2007 - 10:40pm

thank you for your post. I have read the resource section and will continue to read it as it needs to sink in.


You were right about one thing- going out was not the issue, it was just the straw that broke the camel's back. She was trying to put last year behind her and thought she had, but it was going to probably be any incident that caused old pain to resurface. I wish there was more I could've done, but I do feel I did all I could up to that point to show her how sorry I was.


I understand its over, and I certainly understand why. Its easy to say not to feel guilty but I didn't want to loser her- and now she's gone- and its because of my decisions, so I have to blame myself. I know in time that will go away, I just wish I would wake up tomorrow and it would be gone


I have learned my lesson. I am sure I have more lessons to learn. Thanks for the advice and support, I sure do need it