XMas Gift for My Ex???

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Registered: 10-08-2004
XMas Gift for My Ex???
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 4:24pm

I just wanted to get some opinions, and thought this was the best place to do that. I have been broken up with my ex for about 2.5 months now. We have a child together, and have always made it a point to buy for each other from our daughter, since she is still little. Should I still do this? I don't know if he is planning it, or if his new girlfriend would allow it, but I kind of want to get a little something for him from our daughter. I was thinking, since his is a huge Michigan fan and I just saw the cutest little Michigan fleece for our daughter, to have her picture taken in that. I have a free coupon for the picture and the fleece is $7.99, so I would not be spending a lot of money at all. Ever since I was pregnant, he wanted to have something Michigan for the baby, so I kind of think that this is something he would really like. I know, too much thought? I just want to kind of extend the olive branch, and let him know that I still have his best interests in mind. Is this reasonable, or am I thinking too much? It really just came to me when I came across the Michigan fleece for my daughter, and again, it won't be expensive, and it is a picture of his daughter, something he always loves. (Even if it goes into his new apartment with the g/f, I'm ok with that!!).

Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!!!

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 7:55pm
If he wants it then give it to him. I think I'd be nice to have your daughter's picture on the fleece for him. After all she's his daughter and there is no other intention on your part.
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Registered: 11-09-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 8:07am
Hi Caity, try reading Mimiches post about 'X's X-mas present' and you may find some more help ... I'd suggest that you really search and know your emotional state and if you're free of any 'rightful' bitterness or anger then get the picture done - otherwise deal with your feelings out of self-respect. You might loose sight of your self with all the holiday cheer and regret the decision - but I'm not saying to harbor anger, I mean the rightful feelings you have if your X treated you bad ~ :) Val
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Registered: 11-09-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 10:16am
I think you should do it.
The gift is really from your child, not from you and if his new girlfriend can't handle that, then maybe he should think twice about being with her.
He will always be your childs father, so there is nothing wrong with trying to keep the relationship between the two of you a good one.
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Registered: 10-08-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 1:21pm
Thanks to everyone who posted a reply to my question!! Just to let you know I had the picture taken and it is about the cutest picture I have ever seen! I hope that he likes it as much as I do, and I hope this is a step towards us getting back some of our friendship! Thanks again and Happy Holidays All!