y is love so hard n y am i so pathetic

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Registered: 10-16-2006
y is love so hard n y am i so pathetic
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 10:10am
i look at myself and i see a pathetic person, i dont understand y i can't get over and dump my ex ( i know wierd ... how to dump and ex) we were going out n then b4 the beginning of summer he dumped me and asked me to hook him up with my best friend... i was pissed at him, n she obviously said no. We went through most of the summer without talking even though i thought of him often. Then in august i started getting calls from him wondering if i wanted to hang out... so i did.. (stupid i know)... i never got over him n when he called i felt like he might of changed.. wrong i was... after we started getting closer he called me up n wanted to hang out by ourselves i was like sure... he wanted to have sex n i was like no i want a commitment he was like u know me so i let him... a few days passed so i called him n he was being the jerk that he always was, telling me that my best friends are hott n that i should hook him up with them... n i sit here spilling n listening to my story realizing that i am the definition of pathetic but i just don understand how i can care so much about a person who does not give crap about me.... he is always on my mind and i hate to talk to my friends about it b/c it is a redundant story. They say to forget him, but it is so hard... i am infatuated with him even though he is an ass, but when i spend time with him i feel harmony n perfection in the world... i could easily tell him that i love him, but i know that would be the wrong thing to say... y is he in my every thought?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 3:36pm

surfchicka...

PG doesn't want to make you mad or hurt your feelings. But why don't you take a 2nd look at your original post and look at all the 4-letter words you've used?

They come from AN ANGRY WOMAN.

MOST MEN aren't going to bother wasting their time hanging out with a lady who only wants to complain!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 08-11-2006
Mon, 10-16-2006 - 4:29pm

Surfchicka--

You are not the first person to be in this position. If you know you have no willpower around him, the only thing you can do is cut him out of your life. Literally. Don't talk to him, don't see him, nothing. Obviously he is not respecting you or adding anything positive to your life. Or is he? Are you maybe caving in out of loneliness, or do you feel like you'll have a hard time meeting someone else for some reason? Whatever it is, HE is not the answer, and you know it. You just need to cut him off cold turkey. Don't even tell him you're doing it (because he'll just feed you more BS to get more attention). Just do it. The only way you're going to forget about him is keeping busy, and eventually meeting someone else. You deserve much better, anyway. Good luck!

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 12:13pm
...y r u on a girl's website...?
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Registered: 06-05-2006
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 1:59pm

The best thing for you is to have no contact and keep no contact. You are never going to get over this jerk and move on until you have no contact with him. He is obviously messing with your emotions and he is acting like a little kid by testing you on what he can get away with. Show him that you are a strong person and you don't need someone like him in your life. My ex was very much a jerk and I am just now seeing that after 4 months of no contact. I know now that if he tried to contact me now, I have the strength and smarts to tell him to take a hike. You may not see it now, but there are better men out there who will treat you with so much more respect and dignity then this jerk did. I still think about my ex everyday but I think about the bad times NOT the good times we had and I can see I am much better off without him. It does stink that we are great women and we can be attracted to a-holes but sometimes we can't control who our heart falls in love with but we can control the outcome.

Bottom Line: DUMP THE JERK AND STAY FAR AWAY FROM HIM

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 10-18-2006 - 5:59pm
This site is not just for women. Mostly only women post here, but we always welcome a male opinion.


Carrie