YAY...quick post

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Registered: 09-14-2004
YAY...quick post
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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 12:42pm

I was out drinking last night with some friends and thought of my ex...

For a minute, I had the urge to text him. But then I thought to myself, WHY?! I have absolutely nothing to say to him...so I didn't :)

Even though I was drunk and pretty out of it, I realized that...and to me, that seems like a positive step foward :)

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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: kcl19310
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 1:36pm

That's excellent. I think one of the first steps, even baby steps to moving on is to stop contacting them, even if it's just to say Hi. I mean if they're not calling you, why should you call them.

I no longer have urges to call or see my ex. My biggest thing now is to stop looking out for his car in traffic (we take the same route to work). This not only makes me nervous, but makes my stomach ache if I do see him (like I did yesterday).

Baby steps! We're doing good!

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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 3:48pm

Yes, baby steps are definitely a good thing :) Sometimes I think about my ex and wonder if I should contact him...but then I remind myself of all the times he has ignored me in the past, and how if he really wants to talk to me, he will get ahold of me. It's odd how something as little as sending a text just to say "hi" can set you back in your healing process.

Congrats on your progress as well!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
In reply to: kcl19310
Sat, 12-04-2004 - 10:10pm
Good for you!! You could have easily used drinking as a reason for giving in to temptation buy you didn't. Each step deserves to be congratulated. Thanks for the inspiration!! When I read post and see that other women are being strong I know I can do it too.
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Registered: 11-09-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 8:15am
My progress feels great too ... but I think in my next relationship I'll not leave myself so open if it breaks up. I think you can kind of 'prepare for the storm' in case it hits and then there's not so much pain in the end. It seems like guys are pretty good at this and it doesn't seem like they suffer as much ... they just handle it better ~ V
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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 2:03pm

Thanks!

I'm glad you're inspired...I hope you continue remaining strong! You can do it :)

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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 2:09pm

I'm glad to hear that you're making progress...

and of course it's ok to be cautious at first...but don't be too afraid to open up to someone next time. I personally don't think that preparing yourself for the worst is a good way to live your life. It's scary trusting your own judgment again after getting your heart broken, isn't it? But you may miss out on someone great if you don't take the risk...

"Don't ever be so afraid of heartache that you forget to love."

"Loving someone is gonna hurt, and the sooner you let yourself feel that, the sooner you'll be able to love again."

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 3:48pm
That's great and you should be proud!! Just keep up the good work!!!











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Registered: 12-05-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 7:52pm
I went through a breakup where i had held back my emotions, waiting jealously for the girl to stop screwing up, and honestly, the breakup was so insanely hard.
just recently i had another breakup, but in this case, i poured myself into it completely, even though probably there were some warning signs that i shouldn't have. i'm telling you, the love you feel ends up protecting you more than it hurts you. sure, you're way far in, way exposed, and even way shocked that it's over. but at the same time, if you listen to your heart, that love tells you how to get out of it. you get little instincts about how to fix yourself. if you listen to those instincts, you get better a whole lot faster.
so my advise is, meet someone, check them out at the beginning, ask all the questions you want to ask, then when love comes rings the doorbell, just go for it. you're just better off each time.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 9:09pm

Congrats on being strong!







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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: kcl19310
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 9:53pm
Thanks Heidi! :) I'm trying to keep up the good work...

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