Flowers one week before breaking up with me?! Confused!

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Flowers one week before breaking up with me?! Confused!
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 9:01pm

Hi everyone - I'm newly single... my boyfriend dumped me two days ago. I'm obviously in this phase where I'm analyzing EVERYTHING that went wrong. One thing that I can't wrap my head around is that he bought me beautiful flowers a week or so ago to celebrate our 2 month anniversary. He also told me that he was excited for our future. Has anyone else had this same situation where their boyfriend bought them flowers/gift before they dumped you? Why is this?? I'm so confused! :smileysad: Thanks!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 9:07pm

I think that at 2 months, it's hardly a relationship so you can't start analyzing things too much.  Yes it would be odd for a man to buy his wife or GF flowers for 10 yrs and then break up, but you were really just starting to get to know each other.  He could have just met someone he liked better.

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Registered: 07-04-2006
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 9:11pm
The night before my ex broke up with me (via email!), he and I spoke on the phone about what we were going to do that weekend...keep in mind, it was Thursday night! The previous week he was waking me up in the middle of the night to say "I love you Baby". So yeah, it happened to me, not the flowers but the same general idea. And we'd been together 4 years!

My ex had a new girlfriend who he'd been seeing for a few months and it just took him that long to get up the nerve to dump me. Apparently she put her foot down and told him to make his choice, NOW, or she was gone for good. He chose her and chose to take the cowardly way out and dump me via email.

However...I am really glad he did, because that relationship was no good and he was no good. I am relieved to be away from him.

In your case, the relationship was so new (I'm finding it a bit amusing that he bought you flowers for a 2 month "anniversary"...I am presuming you two are very young), and while it probably does hurt, it's better to find out now that you two don't belong together (and even if you didn't feel that way, he apparently did).

You'll feel better soon, I promise. And sooner or later you'll meet someone who is right for you.