An Affair Is An Addiction

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An Affair Is An Addiction
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 4:36am

From book "How To Break Your Addiction To A Person" by Howard M. Halpern, PH.D.


1. You CAN live without him/her (probably better).

2. A love relationship is mutual and helps each partner feel BETTER about himself, not worse.

3. You don't have to love someone to be addicted to him/her.

4. Just because you're jealous doesn't mean you love him, you can be jealous of someone you can't stand.

5. If someone says "I'm not going to leave my spouse," believe him/her.

6. He/ she doesn't have to love you.

7. The pain of ending it won't last forever. In fact, it won't last nearly as long as the pain of not ending it.

8.  If it will be the same way five or ten years from now, do you want it?

9. There will be anxiety, loneliness, depression when you end it, but these feelings will last for a limited amount of time and then will stop.

10. It's never too late to make a change; the longer you wait, the more time wasted.

11. The intensity of your withdrawal symptoms does not indicate the strength of your love but the strength of your addiction.

12. You are a whole and valuable person apart from that relationship.

13. He/she is not the "one and only".

14. If you end this bad relationship, you will be opening your life to new possibilities.





































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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sat, 08-18-2012 - 3:16pm
Excellent thread for our Healing Library.

Thank you for posting this, HNH