Coping Mechanisms: Enter The Stilness Of Your Heart

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Coping Mechanisms: Enter The Stilness Of Your Heart
Thu, 12-13-2012 - 9:18am

In times of stress in our lives (and, wow, an A ranks right up there!), I've found that taking extreme self care of one's self can be a wonderful, healing thing.

A few months ago, a close friend asked me to join her to meet a shaman who was visiting a popular local retreat center. (This center is a great asset to our community - they have an extensive series of spiritual and physical activities there, such a yoga, meditation, etc...).  Attending the lecture was a perfect healing experience for me personally - it was only a few weeks after I ended my A, a time when I was still quite vulnerable and sad.

That positive experience kicked off weeks of extreme self care, which I highly recommend to anyone struggling with some stage of their A, their M - and/or just tyring to move on with their life!

Earlier today, I received a letter from a new local shaman who recently set up her practice at the same retreat.  In this letter, she quoted Lao Tzu (best known as the author of the Tao Te Ching):  "To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders."  

She goes on to say:

"This time of year can be such a challenging time for us.  If we were to truly honor our natural rhythms, we would be spending most of our time in rest and renewal.  It seems we tend to get to that after the New Year when we have exhausted and depleted ourselves throughout the holiday season.  If we were to tune in, it is this time before the coming Solstice when the days are getting shorter and the energy more yin, or inward.  Our energy is pulling us inward and our world is pulling us outward.  This can happen at anytime, however the contrast at this time of year is heightened and can add to additional stress and imbalance on the level of body, mind, emotion and spirit.   Also, as we approach the end of 2012, there is a sense of awareness that one cycle is ending and a new one is beginning.  This is seen in the Mayan calendar and other traditions as well. Finding time for stillness is important all of the time, however when we are in times of great change or stress, whether inwardly or outwardly, there is an even stronger need for stillness.  It is in the quiet space of stillness that understanding, awareness and integration occurs.  Take some time to enter into the stillness, even for just a few moments today.  Creating just a few minutes of stillness at the beginning or end of each day can support a paradigm shift."

You are so valuable and deserve to be pampered.  So, why not take extreme care of yourself - and create some stillness at the beginning or end of each day?  I'm all for a positive paradigm shift in my own life - hopefully you are too.