Empathy in the recovery process

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Registered: 08-13-2011
Empathy in the recovery process
Sun, 01-15-2012 - 4:26pm

We all know the stages of grief when we end an A but one stage I believe is important in our healing process that is not talked about is 'empathy'.

When an A ends, we are filled with questions, doubts, feelings of rejection, anger. Despite our best efforts we always reach a stage of anger. Why did he/she do this to me? Why did they make me feel this way? As much as we try to rationalise the behaviours of ourselves and our XAPs, we just can't seem to get away from this anger and pain. It frustrates us more and more and we get even angrier. It's cyclical. Will we ever move forward from this stage? The answer is yes. We eventually reach the stage of acceptance but it takes time and work.

The first day of the rest of my life: 25/10/2011
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:32am

Hi Optimist,

I saw this post the other day and I didn’t have time to post in the mental two thumbs up I was giving it. I’m glad you posted it here in the healing library. It’s a great addition!


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