Rules for maintaining LC at work

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Rules for maintaining LC at work
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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 10:23am

HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY MAINTAIN LC AT WORK. -->

1)    No personal conversations. Keep communications strictly professional.

2)    Change your routine.
           - Park in a different spot.
            - Enter workplace through a different door.
            - Leave work a few minutes earlier or later than before.
            - Eat lunch at your desk, with another co-worker, or by yourself.
            - Find another break room or go outside and take a walk.
            - Be creative with avoidance techniques.

3)    No txt msg., No IM’s, NO emails. If you were using a personal account, delete it. Only use business email and only for business…...do not send or receive email jokes from XAP. Delete before reading.

4)    Avoid all office gossip. You won’t always have to do this but for now keep your nose glued to the grindstone.
- Bury yourself in your work.
- Sound agitated if he tries to get your attention. Say, “I’m busy right now"
- Never be alone with him in any room. If that is unavoidable, NEVER close the
   door behind you even if he asks you to…. This is about YOU now.
- Accept NO excuses for him wanting a conversation alone with you.
    
5)   Change routine if you have to travel with him.
- Take a different flight or drive with other coworkers if possible.
- Stay at a different hotel - Eat meals with other co-workers. NO alcohol if XAP is around.

6   Cancel any meeting with him that you can get away with.
            - If you can’t do this, sit as far away from him as possible. NO EYE CONTACT.
            - Cut out of the meeting as soon as you can. No lingering in the hallways.
           

    Sometimes if they are your boss, they will contact/call you outside of work.
            -There is no reason for this. Let it go to voice mail.
 
8)  If you sit close to XAP, ask for a different cubicle/seat.
           - Find any excuse, like there's a draft or too much traffic in that area.
          - Request a change in departments or to another building/location if your job has other branches.

9) Dress down - no more low cut tops, and cute little skirts. ;)
- Professionalism means dressing that way.

There is always *Something* you can do to make life easier at the workplace. Remember, nothing is going to change until *you* do.




Edited 4/12/2009 8:43 am ET by cl-messenger_2008

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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 12:24pm
Excellent post!
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Tue, 08-12-2008 - 1:53pm

Much obliged.....I know it was a little harsh in some aspects, but nothing worthwhile in life comes easily.



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Registered: 02-28-2008
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 10:57pm

Messenger.....

Thank you for your for this post....I needed to recall some of the LC/NC work rules and they all make perfect sense.

This will prove to be a huge help.......think I need to print it out and out and tape it to my bathroom mirror to look at each morning!!!!

HG

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Registered: 02-16-2008
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 6:12pm

This is a great post with a lot of really good advice. I am currently doing just about everything on the list and have been just fine with it. Especially the eye contact thing, I don't even look at him anymore. Even if he is standing with a group of people and they stop me as I'm walking by to say hello I avoid even setting my eyes on him. The funny thing is that it really isn't an act anymore, I don't want to see him at all if I can help it.


When I am leaving work I must pass by his office. I normally make sure I am walking out with someone else just to avoid the potential of him coming out of his office as I'm walking by. This way I could just continue on without skipping a beat. I have learned that if you truly want to ignore/avoid someone, you can and you will.

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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 7:15pm

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Good job, sweetie. I think it all hinges on just how badly we really want to get back to being comfortable at work. Any wiggle room for them to squeeze through is too much, IMO.

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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 11:04am

I know this time is different for me because I know longer have any desire to see him at all. I can't believe I finally got to this point but I did. Just a few weeks ago he was standing out front with a couple of other co-workers and as I exited and walked towards my car, I realized one of them was blocking me. So, I had to go back to ask her to move her car. When I walked up to them he tried to be funny and said something along the lines "hurry up people want to get home and laughed". I didn't even look at him and when I got into my car I simply drove away without looking back at them. In the past I probably would have giggled at what he said, but this time, nothing. That is what I am giving him, nothing.


There is hope for those who think they will never get past this. I am living proof.

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:52pm
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 2:12pm
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Wed, 09-24-2008 - 8:50am
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Bumping up for newbies

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