1.5 years out, but still dealing
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1.5 years out, but still dealing
| Thu, 05-19-2011 - 10:12am |
I was walking out of a store last night on my way home and ran, literally, into a person I know in common with xAP.

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Hi Dee,
Dee,
I want you to really think hard about this. So what if X is there? So what if H contacts him? You should have enough strength and faith by now to know XAP is not going to cause any problems, and that your fears are unfounded. He has stayed out of your life, as you have his, and after 1.5 years, IMO, it's time to bury the A hatchet, go to the concert and enjoy yourself, turn a blind eye to XAP if you were to spot him, excuse yourself to ladies room if there is run in and H wants to chat with him...whatever it takes. You need to start living without fear still grabbing you around your ankles.
I believe lying to your H to get out of this is FAR WORSE than having a brief encounter with your past. Others may not agree with this, but this is my honest opinion so take it or leave it.
((Hugs))
The mess we create....just a friend of exAp can put us in a tailspin eh?
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Dee,
Big deep breath and big hug!
You know that I don't know jack about anything and have no basis for providing tough love. I imagine that I'd hate being around XMW, especially with my W nearby. At this point, I know that I'd book a trip to Aruba or something, but that's me.
That said, you've kicked the A's butt from pillar to post. You've made a solid decision for your life and family. You get it, you've done it and you've helped so many others move forward. I can't imagine that you couldn't muster the strength to go to this event and enjoy it. If you run into X, maybe, just maybe you could even grab your H's hand; you've made your choice.
It strikes me, as others have said, that not going simply keeps giving XAP control. That isn't who you are.
Go forth and rock.
MPV
Iddy, et al - I would take the 'take it or leave it' approach to any of Iddy's advice.
(( Dee ))
Sorry i'm kinda late but i can relate :)
Kat
Dee-
I'm going against the crowd here.
If its causing you stress, don't go.
Heart, thank you for being a strong enough and caring enough person to buck the crowd.
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