2 weeks LC....struggling
Find a Conversation
2 weeks LC....struggling
| Mon, 04-04-2011 - 12:20pm |
Hey all - need to splurge .....
Am having a downer of a day today - really am struggling to refocus and keep mind away from xAP (who is my manager at work)

Pages
Unfortunately I am having a bad day so far, I have to work with him today. I know I should be relieved that he spends most of his shift avoiding me but it seems to bring it all up again and it hurts like crazy!!!! I am not even at work yet and I am anxious and nauseous about it. SO sick of this.
On another note, I hope you both have better days!
Better day today - he's not in but will be tomorrow. Working hard not to respond in anyway - some of my emails from him can be friendly - but am not responding. Not like they were and not yet fishing but still inviting a friendly reply. Do they always fish? Read alot about it and with no contact seems to be the assumption it will happen.
Just holding on to feeling stronger today - hope seeing him tomorrow won't set me back. Guess will slowly get used to it. I know we are worth more.
Hope you are having a good day too Tuff. Let us know how you are doing.
yellowone xx
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
Yellowone xxxx
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
((BC))
I love the way you are "getting it!" Yes, they fish, and no, it's not flattering.
Regardless- it doesn't matter. Just wanted to make sure what I am on guard against as is not overt or frequent. Guess this is a prob with LC.
You are right in that we like to be nice. Think I read a Kat post where she talks of being good not nice. So we will be good.
Thanks for taking time to reply - this board is keeping me holding on.
theyellowone
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
theyellowone
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
I just want to say I wish you strength and courage in dealing with this situation. I think avoidance as much as possible is a good way to go. I avoided my ap until I had a turnaround in thought and could see through him. Then it didn't really matter
So please, be prepared. Have a plan to walk away, have a script to say "I can't talk with you. I need to go", and have the backbone to stay true to your values anytime, anywhere.
And if he doesn't fish, be grateful that he is showing you some respect and allowing you to heal.
Big hugs to you all
Kat.
Pages