2 weeks of no contact.

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Registered: 01-31-2011
2 weeks of no contact.
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Sun, 02-06-2011 - 12:36am
2 weeks and I have not responded or initiated any contact. I actually don't even feel a loss, is that normal? I had one time where something came up that made me think of him but otherwise, I have very little need to contact him.

Does it make it easier that we never slept together or had any physical contact?
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 1:45pm
It does make it somewhat easier if there was no physical contact, but an EA can be just as painful to end. Since I don't know if your A was LD or short lived, this would also curb your healing time. Affairs that were conducted only online, IMO, become more mentally addictive than phy/emotional. Those of us who had constant contact with the XAP will have a harder time disengaging. The chemical addiction has to be broken on top of everything else.

Consider yourself lucky if you are moving forward easier than you expected. Perhaps supporting others on the board would benefit all of us.

Keep up the good work. Remember that responding or initiating contact shows weakness and selfishness.

((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-31-2011
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 3:05pm
It's not online, I don't see him all the time but we are in the same work circles and I have a lot of contact with his boss and coworkers. Just a matter of time before we run into each other. He has been a thorn in my side for almost 5 or 6 years. Always around, making sure we stay in contact and not leaving me alone.
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Registered: 02-03-2011
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 7:24pm

Its been a week of NC for me.