20 days no contact & he knocks on my door

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Registered: 01-13-2011
20 days no contact & he knocks on my door
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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 11:59pm

I started no contact 20 days ago and tonight he ruins it by knocking on my door.

First let me start by saying i have not posted on here as much as i should i have been suffering in silence i guess....I started out so strong with the no contact and was fine until day 12. Then i just broke down and cried and cried. I still dont know what the trigger was i guess being lonely. I had put the kids to bed and H works 2nd shift so i was home alone i

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Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:28pm

Foggy

I want to thank you for replying last night. I was a mess &

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Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:28pm

Angel, I'm too new here to be able to offer any words of wisdom, but I just wanted to say that I'm so proud of you for responding the way that you did and I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you.

You are doing the right thing for yourself and for your children and you will get through this. One hour at a time, one day at a time "this too will pass". Stay safe, stay strong, and be kind to yourself. We're all right here with you.

Hugs and smiles.

Kat.

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Registered: 08-30-2010
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:48pm
Addicted...sending you hugs and strength. See how selfish he was by telling you he didn't care if your H was home? Now he's put him back in your mind out of fear...fear that he will come back to the house when H is home. Keep posting, keep reading and remain NC...please. Because he saw you; he might think he's gotten a way back in. Show him he hasn't gotten his way back in by remaining NC. Its such a rollercoaster of emotions. It will get better. I promise. Xo.
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Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:57pm

E1

It was around 10:30 pm when he knocked on my door. He is single & yes i had D-day in sept 09...he told my husband everything when i tried to end it with him hoping that would end my marriage. It almost did H moved out & at things were not

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Fri, 02-04-2011 - 11:13pm

Iddy

Thank you for your reply....You are a very strong person and i hope one day i can get to be that strong. You also give wonderful advice and help people to see through the fog to the truth.

You are 100% right about him. He cornered me he made it all about him and his pain, trying to make me the bad person. The longer i been sitting here and thinking im remembering more of the truth about him...not the good times anymore...im remembering the bad stuff...He is a lowlife in the worst sense of the word. Kid Rock has a song called Lowlife and it fits him almost perfectly not that i think about it....

Your right about another D-day too if he tells he tells i cant stop him.....this affair is done and im not going to let him blackmail me into continueing it....I made it through one D-day and if i have to i can make it through another.....if i have to i have to there is

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Fri, 02-04-2011 - 11:23pm

MG

Thank you for the support i need all i can get right now....

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Great post Foggy,...great post. I think you do not give yourself enough credit...like other posters. I told Lolly the same thing the other day. This board is beyond amazing.

Addictedangel, I have had similar incidences happen to me. This response from foggy is great and warm. He didn't ruin your days of NC. You still went thru the worst of it. Those first three weeks were the hardest. And you saw it thru. You handled yourself as best you could. But you have nothing to feel guilty about. You may have done some ugly things in the past, but you are not anymore and that is ALL you can control. Hope today is better. Please protect yourself in the future...
Luvin
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And I don't like his statement about not caring about your H...you care about your H, that is bothering me and I can bet the others have posted why...I try to write a post and not read others responses to not be swayed in mine...but I know this board. Now off to reading I go....
Luvin
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Registered: 10-21-2009

I think I remember your story - after you

**Bloodied but unbowed**