3 days in to tweenerville my Dday hits
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3 days in to tweenerville my Dday hits
| Mon, 10-11-2010 - 1:14pm |
So xAPs W deciced out of the blue to contact my H tonight and told him everything..needless to say he is gutted the children are inconsolable ..i am the devil incarnate and he has kicked me out how do i make him listen ...how do i make him see we had already chosen spouse and family over xAPhe is talking divorce..i had started the hard yards...we had re. ..connected...things were good .. . ir eache? d93 days now this....cr@p H wont even talk to me..hates me wants a D...says he will find a lawyer tomorrow what do i do? He knows i love him..that i want my family i guess balls in Hs court now
NC x
NC x

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Mstrmstr,
While I appreciate that you're reaching out to help NC, I have to let you know that this board is not a BS or All Sides board - this board is only for those who've had affairs that have ended.
NC, I have followed your story and am so very sorry for what has happened. You are getting lots of advice and support here. I did not have a DDay--this time--but I now live in fear of it myself. This is the worst thing that could happen to someone who has come out of the fog and ended his/her affair. I am just so sorry you are suffering through this.
I know you are an incredibly strong woman and you will get past this, just like you got past ending the A. I agree with everyone who has said that your H is incredibly hurt and more than likely he's numb to the point that he can't think rationally right now. Just keep breathing, try to eat, have faith, don't give up on yourself, love your children, hug yourself, lean on us.
My warmest of thoughts are with you as I am sending you vibes of strength. Stay strong.
~Alwayst2
not to hijack--but dee--is that actually true that bs's cant post here? i was only asking bc i've seen some other bs posts here too. personally i think mstrmstr's post was one of the kindest and least judgmental bs posts that i've seen. but then again, i've had some pretty angry bs's come at me.
anyway, this is a thread about NC, and her struggle to move on past d-day. NC, we are pulling for you.
The terms of use for the board are not coming up from the main page link, but if I've violated some rule in offering this advice/support, I won't be offended if the post is removed.
I do think, though, that the points I made could be useful to someone in NCs situation and the post was motivated by sympathy and a desire to offer support.
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Mstrmstr I found your post helpful and kind, not at all judgemental in the least and thought it was nice you took the time to reach out and give her insite to what her H is thinking.
nC x
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(((((NC)))))
Like I said in my email, I really think you need to contact an attorney. Luvin - if you are out there reading, wouldn't that be your advice? Please hang in there. At some point your H has to settle down a little bit and see things more clearly. Be careful. I'm thinking of you.
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Is there any way for you to direct him to a betrayed spouse board or get him some info on the way he is feeling? Perhaps if he spoke to a professional, rather than a friend, he might settle down sooner. Perhaps you can email him some links or leave some print outs for him to see? I am so sorry, NC. This is going to be the real Hell for a while. I am hoping for his sake--as well as yours--that he gets some counseling or does some reading so that he can understand what he is feeling right now. His world has just been destroyed. He loves you. I hope and pray he will come around in a little bit of time.
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