3 Mths. NC - I called

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Registered: 07-02-2004
3 Mths. NC - I called
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 12:33pm

I I am the married one - He is the single OM
my situation doesnt help me to break free of this emotional mess.

I work with him a few times over a period of 2 weeks. We talk at work everthing
is nice . Than I cant get him off my mind . So- I called I felt like a fool
afterwards .

OM- made some really harsh comments mind you he is 42 divorced with a son 7 daughter

1. Waking up to a woman in the AM sceeves him !

2. Why can't woman be like MEN !

3. He HATES woman !

4. He doesnt' want a relationship !

5. Why are we so emotional !

Than of course he was busy - So, ends the call with I will call you tomorrow .

Maybe we will hang out - As of yet he has NOT called believe me
I am NOT sitting by my cell as I have in the past .

Any thoughts on this ?

After our converstion - I had to text him maybe 3 times . Asking hijm why do men say they are going to call and than DONT . I more or less said I know you are NOT going to call .

I am married to the " BOSS " his boss as well . So- I think he uses me to get information out of me . Which I use for my benefit - Example I have something to tell you but- It will cost you a drink .

I know STUPID !!! How am I suppose to act towards him at work . I will see him on Monday ! Am I suppose to HATE him because he Hates woman .

I DONT UNDERSTAND - LONELY, SAD, CONFUSED - NJ GIRL HERE

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-09-2004
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 1:40pm
sucks you had a setback but hang in there. i can't really relate too much to your situation but i wish you luck. at least you made it 3 months, i'm just barely coming up to my 1st month. Wish i had some great advice for you but i'm sure others will.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-09-2004
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 1:59pm
Dear love, I don't get it, why in the world would you want to be involved with a man who has an total disregaurd for you or woman, this man has issues!!!!!!!!! Why would you put your self in such a position of being degraded in such a mannar. You are the wife of the boss? Are you looking for some kind of control? Don't get me wrong we have all been degraded however I don't think in such an overt way. I mean this man comes right out and says he hates woman. That is a new one on me. Please get out while you can. this man does'nt sound stable.Don't text him he souds like a man who gets off on degrading woman. If you have this uncontrolable desire to be with this man I strongly urge you to get some counsling. I am in counsling my self and I know there are other woman on here who are as well. Is this man, and I use the term loosly, worth your marriage? RUN!!!!!!!!!!!! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck,
kat