48 hour rule turned into 62...

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Registered: 05-22-2010
48 hour rule turned into 62...
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Fri, 09-24-2010 - 8:46pm

...but it worked.



NC almost 6 weeks and I get a Facebook message...miss u. This forces me into decision time: road A was message back and road b was to take final step and use FB blocks to prevent messages from xap (had already unfriended). So I close FB and come here and read a bit. It kept me from answering back that night, but I did not block right away.



Applied the 48 hour rule and stretched it an extra day, but I finally did complete the final block (road B it is).



'Two road diverged in a yellow wood and I-



I took the road less traveled by



And that has made all the difference.'



I do not post much, but I do read. When I first ended, this road looked very scary. I am glad I found wonderful travel companions on this board.

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 9:01pm

You're amazing! I am so proud of you for taking the time you needed to figure out the consequences to that tiny, little 'miss you' that could have been the gateway opening back to h*ll. I went through a similar situation 4 months out. xAP tried to contact me and left a long voicemail on my phone. I didn't listen to it - nor did I erase it. I just let it sit there. I knew time would give me perspective. There was no emergency.

I let myself sit in inaction. I knew that taking no immediate action was the safest thing for me. So, a few hours passed, and then I erased it without listening to it. That was so freaking hard. Did I ever feel strong afterward - it was quite the test, I wasn't sure I would pass, and I did. Just like you!!!

Some days I have had to initiate the 48 hour rule, and then when I got to the 48 hour mark, I would have to put it in place again. The point is to give ourselves enough time, whether that is a few hours, a few days or a few weeks, before we act. Time not only heals, but gives us time to make choices that won't cause more injuries.

I am very happy that you shared this success with us.

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 9:43pm

I am impressed by the both of you.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 1:00am

Wow guys- that is bloody fantastic!!!! I am so inspired by you both, and all the enders here!



Wel done and you both deserve the fantastically strong feeling that you are now flushed with.



I strive to get that- but you give me hope xx

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:11am

Bravo, Julia. You did yourself a great service, not to mention adding more personal power to your resume. Proud of you, girl.



((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 05-22-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 7:24pm

Thank you everybody for your words of encouragement. I thought I was getting worked up over nothing when just reading the subject line of a message caused such a conflict in my brain.



I do feel stronger and better. I know if I had responded, I would not have felt strong or better at all.