7 months NC...but still healing.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
7 months NC...but still healing.
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Mon, 10-12-2009 - 9:46pm

Mia here...again.

Seven months ago i posted and got the support of so many great folks to help me get through the end of the A.

I'm still struggling and don't understand why i'm still strugglilng. why i'm still thinking about this guy. I feel like i'm going backwards instead of forward.

I wasted 8 years of my life and i'm so angry. I went to a friend's house party this weekend and everyone was there... mostly couples and me. I looked around and realized i lost touch with my friends. 8 years i was chasing him and didn't keep in touch with my own friends.

Did anyone watch Dr Phil today? It was intersting to see several of the "other women" and hear some of their stories. As usual everyone was blaming them for the affair. The man needs to take responsibility for the affair!

I can't help but think of his W - she never called me after our conversation 7 months ago - i find that shocking as well.

I recently started playing soccer again and everyone is asking me about him or what happened with us so maybe that is why i'm finding this so hard. I saw him coming to a field but i ran the other way - he was trying to avoid me as well. I talked to some mutual friends who told me terrible stuff he had said about me and i feel foolish. I always thought he loved me and it hurt to get that punch in the stomach AGAIN even after I have ended the A.

Sometimes i wish i could have a conversation with him so that i can tell him how i feel...i now this will do nothing but i would like to do it. I just hope when I see him at soccer because i will - i have to remember to keep my head high and keep walking.

Just needed to post and have someone hear the voices in my head!

Anyone have anything uplifting for me?

Mia
Mia
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 10-12-2009 - 10:17pm

Ya know I heard voices and I thought they were coming from MY head, but apparently they were voices in YOUR head :-).


I'm sorry you heard something through the grapevine that made you feel badly.


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Registered: 10-21-2006
Tue, 10-13-2009 - 6:22am

Mia~


Even though your A has been over for 7 months (congrats, BTW), it can take much longer than this to completely heal, if ever, from being the OW. Sadly, it's the price we have to pay for our actions and poor choices. I am 5 years out and still have

Iddy

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