9 Months!
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| Sat, 07-03-2010 - 2:18pm |
Hello all! I wanted to share the good news that as of yesterday, I am officially NINE months NC! I haven't been on the Board since last month, but had decided a while ago that I would come every month to share my progress. I can't wait to post my success story at the one year mark!
The road has not been easy, but my resolve has been strong. Some days are much harder than others, but as each day passes and the fog continues to lift, I am able to enjoy my real life more and more. It's a wonderful feeling to not be tied to my phone, or worry about concocting an alibi when I'm going to see xAP. It's a freedom that doesn't compare to the feel goods I thought I was getting from the A. And since my xAP was single, it's terrific to not have to wonder what he's really doing on these gorgeous summer nights. I get to just live MY life, finally.
For those of you starting out, facing what seems like an insurmountable task, please know that you CAN do it. I was in my A on and off for 8 years. And here I am, 9 months out (the longest stretch of NC we've ever done) and I feel like a new woman. I used to keep the door open just a crack, to make sure that if he wanted to come back, he could, and he always did. Now that I'm finally protecting myself and committed to moving forward, I can see the light, and let me tell you ladies, it's GORGEOUS.
Peace and love to all -
Gal

Hi Gal,
I am so glad you posted today. It is so inspiring to hear that you've come so far and that you are doing well.
My xAP is also single, and I had created a very vivid picture in my fantasy of the two of us being together some day. Now that the fog has begun to lift, I can see that he could never be the man to make me happy. I do still think about him every day, but I'm not really sad. He has moved on and I know this. I have accepted this. He hasn't tried to contact me at all. That's still kinda hard to accept, but I'm thankful.
So, I am following in your footsteps and I am feeling a sense of Independence today that I haven't felt in over 4 years.
-Angel
Gal,
It's so good to hear from you again. 9 months NC is great news! You are a pillar of strength and inspiration. I like what you said about freedom, because that is what I feel most since ending my A. I am no longer a prisoner, hostage, or slave. Freedom has never been so sweet.
Thank you for all the times you've been here to help me over some speed bumps. Congratulations on 9 months! Way to go, girl!
((hugs))
CSN
BIG hugs to you, Gal. Thanks for checking in and letting us know how you are doing, and Happy Independence Day, my friend.
You are truly an inspiration to us all.
(((Hugs)))
~Iddy~
WAHOO!
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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