About calling the W....

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Registered: 07-07-2003
About calling the W....
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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 1:32pm

After this post i am signing out for good.I have come to realize this place no longer represents "support" and friendship...I can not believe all the negative replies LLL got from most of you!
Most of the posters seem so damn concerned with the W...well,where was your concern for her when you were screwing her H every single chance you got??Where was your concern for her when you were calling him and texting and emailing him....where was your concern for her when you were taking him away from her EMOTIONALLY as well as physically???
You had ZERO concern for the wife or you would've never been with her H!!
I am just completely floored over how nasty most of you were to her.

FYI:I realize there is always a difference of opinion on every subject matter here,BUT there is also a HUGE difference in kindly stating your opinion and being down right HATEFUL!!In case anyone forgot..this board is called "Ending an Affair SUPPORT"..
NOT "Ending an Affair support IF YOU DO WHAT OUR NARROW MINDS AGREE WITH"

And Posie....you really do talk too much..do everyone a favor and shut up!!!You really would never have much to say if not for copying and pasting...geezz!

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 1:55pm

Hiya Solost,

It's a public message board, take what you need and leave the rest. It's even easier with the benefit of the Ignore Poster feature. With it, you can tune out everyone who doesn't provide the type of support you personally wish to hear.

I don't actually use it much since I like to keep an open mind and I both appreciate & celebrate others' rights to have a dissenting view, but I understand the ignore feature works quite well.

Strength & peace,
Posie

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 3:11pm

Posie, you must have made a dent in this one....

Here, allow me to copy paste what I was referring to:

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It would be much nicer of you to quiet down Pose.

Then they could all waddle around happily in someone else's dress having no idea how big their @rses look ;)

Solo, you're right. It is an ENDING board. Yet, you and others don't seem ready to let go. That's fine. I once thought Posie talked too much as well. And then I realized it wasn't her I was angry with and her words never would have bothered me if I weren't already bothered with myself.

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 01-22-2005 - 4:44pm

soloist,
You seem a lil obsessed with this and it wasn't even your original post to begin with. Perhaps it hit a nerve with you or you are feeling uber-sensative today. This is a public message board. You need to brace yourself more if you are going to be on any public board in the future.

i felt the same way when i went to AS board. Blew my mind. I just soon realized its only because i'd not been exposed to something like that before. Tough love ? Truth smacking someone in the face? Sometimes there are folks who are not as comforting? Real world.
Real...world. Leave the board if you gotta. But i find it so dramatic to have to state that so many times under different threads. You made your point. Now make good on your "threat" to leave or don't. No one is going to be as affected...as you are. People can take it or leave it. But in reality no one will care that there isn't a certain poster posting. Board messages go on. It only affects you.

Like i said before if someone bases their whole life on responses to a board ...they had problems before they hit the board...so i am not worried about someone receiving or not receiving the "support" you are disgusted with. Report a violator. Cry your eyes out. Seek counseling if their suicidal. The Board has no contract with any of us to solve our problems. But you need to question (if you are still reading this) why you are so dramatic about responses. Yes..i HATE the defacating word (sorry Posie lol ) but I am immune to it now lol. I just hate bathroom humor or references in general. But it got my attention for sure.

Perhaps that was the only one that got her (LLL)'s attention. Do not throw out the baby with the bathwater however. There was a lot of things in Posie's post and others to think about...in a perspective that is unusual that just might have turned a head to really really think about things instead of ::here's some chocolate and a comfy blanke/sorry you are feeling bad:: that wouldnt have made her think FURTHER.... remarks that might have put her over the edge...over the edge to RECOVERY YA KNOW?
Goes both ways that street...we choose which side to travel on...no one else can. Posie is the type who will take the bullet for someone if they are at least trying to duck. Not a lot of people would do that. Some just offer cocoa in a pink cup and say to themselves "whew I am glad I am not her" and hide in the fox hole someone else dug. Posie hands over the shovel and says " get off yer lazy arse and Dig!" but she will grab her own and help ya.
Posie, tell me if i look fat in that dress ok? I'll do the same ::taking moonpies and RC cola out of your and Sunshine's hands::replacing it with Edy's Carb Benefit Chocolate chip:: and diet cherry coke::(lay off the sugar LOL)
Lizzie