Accomodations in Tweenerville
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| Tue, 08-17-2010 - 10:03pm |
I thought I would post seperately so my wise (and by wise I really mean sacrastic) words wouldnt get burried within the other post.
First, I want to say thank you for my wings and what a surprise it was to recieve them. I had no idea that I would recieve such an honor. Its not like I have been counting down the days or even had a speech prepared. So 1st of all, (as I reach for the folded piece of paper tucked inside my ball gown) Id like to thank the Academy for the honor of proudly wearing these wings. Id also like to thank my 5th grade teacher for believing in me and instilling in me a love of the arts.
All kidding aside, I wanted to comment about my entry into Tweenerville and how far Ive come with the help of all of you. Back in November I came here and I have been reading, posting or commenting ever since. Your stories have made me think and have made me cry. They have inspired me, touchd me and have given me strength. EAS has given me the tools that I needed to find my way out of the darkest hole I have ever dug myself into.
So that being said, I arrived in Tweenerville feeling honored to wear these wings. I know my arrival comes with a responsibility to help others find their way here and I intend to stay and offer my thoughts and support. I wanted to share with all the newbies what they can count on when they arrive. I want them to know that Tweenerville always has vacancies and will always welcome them with open arms and a warmer welcome than even Mr. Roark and Tattoo could offer up on Fantasy Island.
The accomodations here are top notch. There are not only mints on the pillows, thick and fluffly towels and room service that wont require cashing out an IRA, but there is also clarity, confidence and peace. I got here yesterday and immediately checked in my baggage and havent seen it since!!!!
Dont get me wrong now Newbies there is still work to be done. I was obviously lacking something deep within myself, there was a huge crack in my foundation and morals. I spent my travels here getting over my A, getting over what I was addicted to in the A. I cared for XMM but I cared more for the way he made me feel. But it got bad near the end and I see now how I had so much to lose. I wasnt even sure that I wanted to stay in my M. I remember thinking at one point that I forgot how to be married, I had pushed my H so far away that I was petrified to return. I remember being scared to have sex with my own H. It was like I forgot who my H was, I forgot all the little things that made me love him.....it was awkward but as the days went by I felt better. I allowed myself to laugh, to look at my H and feel love for him, to actually have a conversation with him. Its amazing what a difference 3 months can make. It was 3 months of die hard self reflection and Ill tell ya....its difficult taking that hard look at yourself and putting forth the effort that it takes to not only repair yourself but your M as well.
So newbies, please dont make any decision about your marriage till youve had time to heal yourself first. You can only focus on one thing at a time so let that be you.

This was really cute, GMLB. I have always loved your sense of humor. Also I must add, "What happens in TweenerVille doesn't stay in TweenerVille," because it's the sharing that makes this place work. From this point on we are sworn to uphold accountability, and that means "spilling" it if we slip, slide, or
~Iddy~
I wanna play .....book me in October 8th ..Level 12
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
NC - I just calculated that I'll be there Sept. 24 so I'll get us that golf course view!
:)
Bodhi
Bodheeeeeeeeeeeeee
Way to go ..........
i need a spreadsheet now for all these dates........there will be some influx, you must be 2 weeks ahead of me
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
Hey G,
(wanted to send this late last night, but then RL got in the way)
Had to break my silence to give you a standing O!!! (Was clapping loudly when I read your post).
<< I wanted to comment about my entry into Tweenerville and how far Ive come with the help of all of you. Back in November I came here and I have been reading, posting or commenting ever since. Your stories have made me think and have made me cry. They have inspired me, touched me and have given me strength. EAS has given me the tools that I needed to find my way out of the darkest hole I have ever dug myself into.>>
I have tried to do the same since my arrival, but have been reading a lot, posting not so much. I have gained so much from all the thoughts and tears that have been produced by this place, and you are right that EAS gave you the tools, but I am so happy that YOU decided to pick them up, learn how to handle them, and put them to good use. You were a big part in replacing that giant shovel that was in my hand for so long with something much more useful.
<< I know my arrival comes with a responsibility to help others find their way here and I intend to stay and offer my thoughts and support>>
And I, for one, am thankful for that. Your comments in response to my first post had a lot to do with the amazing welcoming, and safety this place has to offer. You gave such great advice to me about how to handle the transition from A fantasy land back to RL M land. And believe me, while I am still struggling with that, your words from back then, as well as reading your words in this post about how far you have come in the rebuilding of your M give me so much HOPE!
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I can only imagine. I have done so much in the last 3+ weeks that I have to give myself “time outs” from the self reflection sometimes :) I have been working on a long posting which attempts to process what I have learned here so far. I think reading this post, and being so happy of your achievements has given me the confidence to do so.
So cheers indeed! I got a wicked backhand, and look forward to joining you and all the other wonderful ladies (and gents) soon enough. Congrats...keep on gettin!
Peace--Foggy