addiction hence DDay

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Registered: 08-27-2008
addiction hence DDay
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Sat, 01-23-2010 - 4:13pm

Hi all,


Not sure how many of you remember me. I was having an emotional affair with a person that works with my husband and I for 2yrs. There was a kiss in September but it did not go further.


Lots of cat and mouse games between the two of us. It was a terrible time in my life. I could not remove myself from the situation. I was an addict.


I suffer from poor self esteem despite the fact that I am fairly attractive and

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sat, 01-23-2010 - 4:31pm

Millsb,


If telling XM's GF about the baby was something your H needed you to do then it was the right thing to do. Otherwise I would have said to just stay out of his business and leave his GF alone.


If the guilt is

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-27-2008
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 11:31am

Thankyou for responding. I have been going to therapy even before DDay.

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 4:42pm

The girlfriend needed to know the truth so she can choose her life.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 9:51pm

Mills

"why do I care about this animal?"

You said earlier in your post ..."I suffer from poor self esteem"

This guy stroked your EGO big time trying to put another notch on his belt and you got a big EGO boost from it and that is addictive by itself, over and above that your also dealing with a chemical addiction, read up on endorphins and other brain chemistry, fight and flight responses etc... you will find it helpful to deal with the problem when once you have defined it.

I think if you deal with the roots of your low self esteem you will find yourself uninterested in that turkey and any others like him that you will encounter in life.

And yes you did the right thing, hard to go wrong when you tell the truth.

Free

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Registered: 08-27-2008
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 1:34pm

Thankyou all,


I am grateful for your encouragement. It has been a hard road.


I still think about him and that is so wrong. He used to make it seem as if his life revolved around me. Obvviously this is not so. He hates me and its hard for me to accept and move on. My self esteem is truly out of whack.


I am very tempted to contact him but I am not even sure what i could say.