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| Mon, 07-19-2004 - 3:45pm |
i dont know where to start im new to these message boards so here goes i have been married for 3 yrs and have 2 lovely children but i just feel so fed up with home life that just recently i have been getting attention from a bloke at work at first i was a laugh and meaningless flirting but just recently it has lead to a little bit more ie sneaky kisses at work i only work at weekends so when im in i find myself drawn to him ive tryed to stay away from him but i cant i know if my hubby was to find out that would be it 4 my marrige and i have my kids to think about but for some reason at the time all that goes out of my head. i dont see any future for me and the bloke so it seems so silly but i just cant stay away help me please
Edited 7/19/2004 4:16 pm ET ET by cheekygurl1979
Edited 7/19/2004 4:16 pm ET ET by cheekygurl1979
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| Tue, 07-20-2004 - 10:22am |
Hi, I have never written on a message board in my life, but I felt really compelled to respond to you. I wanted to let you know my story to perhaps save you from the devastation that is happening to me now.I went through the same thing as you at work.This guy started working at my job in the kitchen and I was instantly attracted to him as he was to me.I developed a work crush on him that lasted almost two years until one day he asked me to go have a drink with him and I did.AT the time my husband and I were going through a rough spot.We had been married six years and had two kids.I felt like he was going out too much and ignoring me when he was home.SO I started going out with the other guy who was everything you would hope for in an affair. He was handsome, charming, and passionate.He was from Cuba and I found him very different from myself and that was exciting to me.Well anyway I knew there could never be anything between us, despite his pleas of love, because of my marriage, kids and the fact that this guy barely spoke English.Well to make a long story short eventually I was put in a place where I had to tell my husband.He freaked out at first then he forgave me and he tried to make a go of it with me.But a week ago he told me he will always be haunted by the affair and he wants a divorce.Ilove him and I'm devastated.I destroyed my family for this guy who I will never see again.I feel guilty, ashamed, and heartbroken.My kids are going to be so hurt and its all my fault.Trust me you do not want to be in this situation.I could not resist the guy I went with either but all I can say to you the next time you feel the urge for him think about how horrible it will be to have to tell your kids that you are getting a divorce from their father and knowing it is your fault.I do not mean to lecture far from it I just wish to help because I would give anything to go back in time and change everything.
